G-Code

I exhale with anticipation. The crowd around me is very festive and lively. I can here other conversations going on around me. Yes, I'm being nosey. There is a couple to my left, the girl is going on and on about her day, and the guy is listening but it appear to be bored. Across from me is a group of friends excitedly talking about the holidays and how hungry they are. Just as they mention something familiar my Iphone goes off with a text message from my friend. The message reads that she's parking and will be in shortly. I sigh with relief, because I too like the group of friends is very hungry and my friend has had me waiting for about a half an hour. Before I could dwell on her apparent tardiness she comes breezing through the door. Dressed head to toe in winter. We live in Jacksonville, FL so it's about 62 degrees out and this chick has a scarf and snow boots on. But all in all, she looks lovely. "Hey boo, sorry I'm late" she says, walking towards me. "No problem" I say, instantly forgiving her lack of punctuality. She sits down next to me and starts going on and on about how her boyfriend was the reason she was late, and she'd further explain at the table. I sat just like the couple to my left, listening as my friend went on and on. I really wanted to hang onto her every word but she was beginning to talk in circles. "Clark, party of two!" Called a nearby hostess. And not a minute too soon.

We got up quickly, and I tried to avoid the stares of people near me, who are still waiting. Sorry y'all, your time is coming soon, I thought to myself. We got to the table and ordered a round of Cosmos. I've only known her for about 9 months, but she's so genuinely sweet, it's no wonder we're friends. She's quickly become one of my best friends and I feel as if I've known her forever. Her positive energy is exciting and she's very supportive. I need more friends like this. We met because she was crying at work one day. She then told me her life story, explaining how her last relationship ended very badly and how she was cheated on and he was mentally abusive. She then found out he was sleeping with her cousin and got the cousin pregnant. She didn't even get the chance to dump him, he left a note and changed his number. It was such a fucked up situation. She continues to tell me, she's late because her new boyfriend of 6 months wanted to put it down before she left and she was sure if she left it hard, he'd use it somewhere else. "I'm so happy with him though, I don't think he could ever do that to me, I want so bad to fully trust me, but there's just something about him that makes me a bit cautiousness" she says. "I'm happy for you boo, just take it slow, and when am I ever gonna get to meet Mr. Wonderful, you haven't even told me his name" I said.  "Oh, maybe one day. He's kinda funny acting about gay people. And I wouldn't want him to disrespect you" she says. "But I have a picture" she continues. She pulls out her phone and proceeds to show me the picture of Mr. Wonderful. I'm waiting with anticipation as she flips the phone around. "What's wrong?" she asks. The look of horror on my face is apparent. I can't stop staring at the picture. I then thought about my last relationship I always seemed to find emotionally unavailable men, but the last one was the doozy. I fell so hard, so fast I couldn't see straight. I pulled out all the stops, and did everything I could to make him mine, but he wouldn't commit to me. He was still crazy over his ex, but wanted to play house with me, without a title. The unofficial relationship lasted for 2 long years before I had had enough. We actually used to come to this very restaurant. It was our favorite. Being here now brings back a lot of painful memories, I guess that makes me a bit of a masochist. But not as much pain as when she showed me the picture of her boo. "My ex used to hold me just like that, as a matter of fact we took a picture just like that, he told me all I needed was this picture to remember that he loved me" I said. I glance at her and she has a look of confusion on her face. "My boyfriend told me that too" she said. She could see the hurt on my face. "That's him" I said. "Who? Is he here?" she asked. "No, in your picture. That's my ex" I said. "Impossible, your ex is gay, right?" she asked. "I thought so too" I said. "You're lying, stop that messy shit" she said. I pulled out my phone and showed her my version of the picture. And her face went pale. There he was, her Mr. Wonderful, and me in his arms. 

"But you said he was awful, and wouldn't commit, that doesn't sound anything like Tony at all" she said. "Well, Antonio, was and apparently still is very  manipulative. You got played. I'm sorry girl" I said. "I can't stand these faggots thinking they can take our men" she says out of no where. "Excuse me" I reply. "You heard me, I'm sorry it didn't work out, but he decided he wanted a woman, not someone pretending to be a woman, that's why he wouldn't commit to you. He's not a faggot" she said. "Bitch, he was a faggot when he ate this ass! He was a faggot when he asked me to fuck him! I'm sorry girl, your man is gay and you're a dumb ass bitch. I'm leaving, thanks for the drink and have fun with you and your faggot ass boyfriend. Don't forget to ask him how this ass tasted when you got home" I said. I picked up my keys and walked out....Bitch completely violated the G-code.....

It's 1:54PM, and I am patiently awaiting Christmas!!!! I'm so excited to see my family and the look on my niece's face when she opens her gift and ALL THE FOOD!!!! Y'all know I'm greedy. lol. So last week's Blog may have been a little in your face, so I'm a take the tone down a bit and just have an open discussion. Let's talk about the G-Code. We all know what the G-Code is. It's that code among friends that usually never has to be spoken. You just know. Let's get into it...

The most known rule of the G-Code is, you don't date your friend's exs. That's period. It's a universal No-No. If you think the ex is cute, you keep that shit to yourself and take it to the grave. Hos over bros, like for real. But there's levels to the shit. Even if it's just a crush, active boo, or work boo. You don't cross that line. When you know your friend likes someone, it should be automatic, there goes that one. Because is it really worth loosing a good friend over? Don't be Captain Steal-a-boo. That shit ain't cute. If your friend has a crush, then you indulge with them, not against them. Ain't no sharing biiii!!!!

But sometimes the shit gets tricky, just like the scenario above, sometimes you don't know it's an ex. Shit happens like that, what do you do? Do you expect your friend to dump Mr. Wonderful? Or can you put yourself aside and be happy for them? Before you answer that, flip it. Let's say you were dating Mr. Wonderful, would you give him up because he's your friend's ex? I think it depends on time. How long have you and the friend been close? How long have you been with Mr. Wonderful? I know that's contradicting but it's the truth. Sometimes the G-Code has to go out the window and you have to be selfish. Or just get the fuck over it. But situations like the one above will ruin a friendship, the outcome is never good. Because if your friend dumps Mr. Wonderful, they will resent you. They get to thinking what if he was the one? If they don't dump him, you probably won't be as close as you were. Especially if you bonded over discussing your personal relationships, that part of your friendship is over because you know you don't wanna hear about that shit. It's a bad situation either way. Just like the situation on Catfish with the friend and the baby daddy. They fell out in the end because that girl fucked Trez. I know she did! She said fuck the G-Code, sorry that's your baby daddy, but I'm lonely and I want the D. Sometimes, shit happens.

Another rule of the G-Code, is if you see your friend's spouse/lover/boo flirting and putting the mack down with someone else, YOU SPILL THE TEA!!! Yes bitch, you sing like a mutherfuckin Mockingbird!! No joke. Because I want to know. You pass the info and let them deal with it how they may. If you don't tell, that's a violation of the G-Code and your friend will be mad at you. It's a fact.  Now let's take it deeper, what if you see your friend's spouse/lover/boo getting down with the same sex...Now this is a loop hole to the G-Code. Now this is a rule I violate every time. I don't care who you are, but I will NEVER tell my female friends if I see their guy with another man. It takes shit to another level. I had a friend that has been with numerous gay guys, and I will never tell her. EVER! To all my fellow gays, I'm telling you, it doesn't matter how many gay husbands, or gay friends she has, you tell a girl her man is fruity and shit will turn around on you. I'm telling you. I won't do it. Call me a bad friend or whatever, I'm down with anything else. But I ain't down with that! 

Another rule, if your friend is getting jumped...well the mature thing is to call the police. But per the G-code, you jump in! Now I don't condone fighting, AT ALL. But if you're my bestie and I see you getting jumped, no bitch. I'm jumping in!! Unless it could ruin my reputation or something then girl you on your own. I love you and all but my family comes first. Just saying...But hopefully as grown ass adults, we won't be in that situation. But if it's verbal, HELL YEAH! I got you! Ain't nobody bout to bully my bestie! Get the fuck outta here with that shit! We gon read them bitches DOWN! 

There are many rules to the G-Code, those are just a couple. There's the signal when it's time to go. Every friend has it. When y'all go somewhere and you know it's time to bounce, you give the signal and it's time to move. Or if you're dating, you give your friend the guy's info, just in case something pop off....But one of the most important rules is, when your friend is dealing with some shit and need to release....you're there. Whether it be phone, going out for a drink or just having a movie night. It's the most important rule of the G-Code. Be there. And THAT's keeping it 100

Hello

Hello. It's me. I was wondering after all these weeks, if you and me could meet...lol It's 2:59 AM, and I am sleepy but I'm ready to reconnect with everyone. It's been a busy couple of weeks. First of all, I hope everyone had a GREAT Thanksgiving, I know I did. And to all my college students, we are DONE with finals week!!! Yep, it is winter break in this BITCH!!! And I don't plan on logging into my school website until NEXT YEAR! Speaking of which, this will be by last semester, because in May, my husband and I will graduate with an Associate's Degree!!!! I know right!! EXCITING TIMES!!! I think this will be a catch up Blog for me....so let's get to it, here are my random thoughts!

To piggy back on my graduation. I must say, it is surreal. Because 4-5 years ago, I didn't think i'd ever get back in school, let alone graduate. And here I am, with the strength and encouragement of my husband. We motivate each other. Push each other. Us doing well in school, is not just for him, or me. But for US, our future, our kids, the life we want for each other. If the person you are with does not push you to achieve your maximum potential, I'll say it like this, you need to re-evaluate some things. Like seriously. Speaking of graduation, when I graduate I will be the FIRST of my siblings to graduate with a degree. THE FIRST! Not to say that they're not successful in their own ways, but I will be the first of my mother's children to go to college and get a degree. Imagine that, the youngest, the one that came late in life, taking it all the way. So why does it feel like it means nothing to my family? Why is it that my husband and I seem like the only ones excited about our graduation? My niece will graduate high school next June, a month after me, and that overshadows EVERYTHING. Don't get me wrong, anyone who knows me, knows I love my niece, that's my ride or die right there. It's not her, it's her mother and mine. They act as if my graduation means nothing. They talk about this BIG graduation party for her and wanted to include my little cousin who also graduates high school. But the first one to get a college degree is completely overlooked. Now at first, I felt some kind of way that I'm not being celebrated or even acknowledged, but then I realized. My husband is my cheerleader. He celebrates me and I do the same for him. Maybe it wasn't meant for me to be forgotten, or hell him too. But I'm tired of getting the shit stick when it comes to me and my marriage. Some people secretly hate you for what they have not achieved for themselves. Which brings me to my next thought...

Next month, in exactly ONE MONTH, I will be married ONE YEAR!! I look back at those memories and think about how happy I was and how stressed I was on who was coming and who was not coming. But the crazy thing is. My husband and I always say, the people that were meant to be there, were there. And I believe that. BUT...it sometimes bugs me that some people that have seen our relationship through good and bad, were not able to attend. Especially since, some of the people in the group picture we are not close with anymore. I will not name names, and this is not a bashing session or anything like that. But it's just odd that a person I wanted there, who I always wanted to be a part of my wedding, I don't even speak to anymore.  I won't go into in detail, but even on my husband's side. Family is one thing, they're always gonna be there. But I've learned that friends really do come and go. Jealously...envy...whatever....It just means that they weren't meant to share in the rest of my journey. And I accept that. I still got my best friend, so what can I say, some friendships are meant to last forever, even if you don't speak every day.

Ok, what the fuck is up with all these damn bomb threats in our schools? Like for real. Everyone wanted to jump to the girl's defiance when she got yanked from her chair, but look at what kids are doing. Threatening to shoot up school parking lots, hacking schools, bomb threats. And Y'ALL don't think these kids today are out of control??? We are loosing grip, at what point is enough, enough? And that's all I'm a say about that for now.

And in closing, I saw The Wiz Live and um...y'all need to stop jumping on damn Raven Symone. Y'all always wanna talk about black people don't support each other, but as soon as someone has an opinion they're not supporting. GIRL BYE! No, BITCH BYE! I agree with Raven, I missed the "movie version" too. Notice I said movie version, because y'all quick to throw up that it was not the original. But most people DID NOT know that. So I agree, I miss Diana and Michael! It was the shit! I don't agree with everything Raven says sometimes but I'm a say what she can't say because she's on TV. GET THE FUCK OVER IT!  It was good, but it wasn't ALL THAT! Queen Latifah almost fell and them vocals were not up to par, the Dorothy girl got on my damn nerves! And Mary was only an OK Evilene to me. And y'all know I love Mary. But...it was just ok. Ne-Yo did good, everyone did good. But it was just OKAY! I'm not on TV, so if you say something to me, I'm gonna say something back. And unlike her, I will tell you to get the fuck out of my face, if you coming with some bullshit!

So I think that just about sums up our catch up of random thoughts. I wanna say, I love all my supports, please keep spreading the word about me, and sharing and retweeting.  All my overseas supports, Thank you! I just want everyone to love yourself enough to know your worth. Reach for your dreams and know that everything is possible.  With hard work and determination, you can have what ever you want out of life. It's ok to make mistakes, it's not about the mistakes you make, it's about what you do after that defines you. There are gonna be many to doubt you, hate you, envy you, but you have to build and keep pushing forward.  The past can only hurt if you let it. The only one that can stop your future is you. Let's step forward and keep it 100! Let's start repost, retweeting and letting people know you're 100! #keepit100 with #Therealmrclark, so everyone knows, this is some real shit and you're about that real shit, AND THAT'S KEEP IT 100!

Girl Talk: Is he? Or Isn't he?

It's 9:17PM, it's a nice Saturday night, I got a Seagram's Lime Margarita next to me (about empty) and I'm in complete chill mode. It's been a good week. It really went by too damn quick if you ask me. I'm done with all my homework, so it's a real chill day. I'm just watching movies and drinking lol A special and dear friend of mine, more like family actually, lost her son earlier this week. This family really means a lot to me, and I am devastated. I can't even think on it too much or I'll start crying. So I would like everyone to say a special pray for her and her family.

Well, Thanksgiving is less than a week away and I'm ready to EAT!! I'm so excited for the holidays. I'm just in a really blessed place, that's all I can say.

Anyway, as usually if you're offended by sex talk and profanity, you should check out last week's Blog instead. Because this is as clean as it gets... Because I'm about to dial it WAYYYYY up! Ok so let's get to it, ladies, you've been dating your man for a while now. We won't put a number on it because you feeling comfortable with a person, depends on you and there's no telling how long or soon that could be. But y'all are comfortable with each other. Communication is good. The two of you are progressing, and sex is good as well. He comes to you one day and say he wants to try some new things in the bedroom. You're immediate reaction is a bit apprehensive but you prob for him to explain further. After a few minutes, he admits he wants to try toys. So you agree, hoping he's just talking. A few weeks after having this conversation, he says nothing about it. You feel relieved because you think you've dodged a bullet. Because "something new" and "toys" could be ANYTHING. After all, you've read (or seen) 50 Shades of Grey. So over these few weeks, you've been sucking that dick a bit longer, doing it without hands, riding that dick like a porn star, instead of missionary. You even let him put it in the butt once. So you think you good and then he comes with a black bag. Now you're nervous, and he reminds you about the toys. Yep, sorry girl, not only does he remembers, but you took that doggy style for nothing. lol He pulls out a strap on. You're confused. He hands it to you and say, I want you to fuck me tonight.....What do you say next????

So to my gays, do you think that if a straight man wants dick in his ass, that he is gay?

And how about my ladies, is it gay for your man to want you to fuck him? Or eat his booty? Or hell, if he likes fucking you doggy style.

Now some people think that the answer is no, and I'm a tell you why. Some feel, sex is just that, SEX. What a man does sexually with his woman, does not define his sexuality. If he's not attracted to men, or want to have sex with men. Then he's not gay. After all, the definition of being Homosexual, is having an attraction for the same sex. And clearly he does not(...or so he says) He just wants you, his lady, to fuck him.

Some people say yes, because that is how gay men have sex. They do it in the butt. So if my man wants a dick in his butt, it's gay. Or hell, anything to do with the butt, he's gay. Some people feel it is an untapped area for a man and should remain that way. Ain't no grocery eatin biiii!!!! lol (A little ratchet humor)

I'm personally on the fence about this one. Yes I agree, there is nothing wrong with sexual freedom/expression. If he isn't attracted to men, then technically, no he's not gay. I know that's a hard pill for some to swallow (no pun intended) But that is the truth.

But even for my bottoms, if your top turns around and says, "Bae, I'm ready for that dick, I want you to top me. Let's not put limits on our sex life". Do you think he's as any less of a man or top? Don't be ashamed, flip flop that thing! 69 on that oral and take turns! You're so caught up in role playing, that we forget our relationships are not conventional, why be held down by the same standards of those who are not like us? I'm just saying. You can be straight bottom, but be open to the possibility that one day, you could be flip flopping. And sometimes it good too flip flop! Teach these tops what it's like! Some of them are so aggressive and have no mercy on the hole! But anyway, I'm getting off topic, lol


You know, there's a double standard here...why is that if a woman gets her coochie ate, or titties sucked on by a woman, she's not a lesbian because she's not attracted to women. But if a man gets a blow job from a guy, oh he's gay off rip. It's all bullshit to me. I wish we lived in a world where people could be themselves without judgement. It's stupid!

But we as society, even I'm guilty of it, put restraints on our sex lives because of what we believe to be "normal" and "acceptable". I'll be honest with you, I think it is a bit fruity for a straight man to want to be fucked. He may not be GAY, but that's a little suspect to me. I'm just saying, Every relationship has it's own thing, and sometimes you gotta roll with the punches. call me what you want. I'm a product of this world and I'm human. I WANT to believe in sexual freedom and blur the lines. I'm getting there, just not quite there YET, call me whatever, but at least I can keep it 100!

LIVE!

It's 4:26 PM, and abnormally, I'm sleepy. So if I start typing in circles forgive me lol This week has definitely been better than last week. And strangely enough, I'm in a terrific mood today! I just woke up feeling great! I guess Fridays can do that to a person! Most of my homework is pretty much done. All I have left to do is a Sheep Brain dissection....YUCK! I know! I'm totally not looking forward to it. It's hard to believe Thanksgiving is less than 2 weeks away! I'm completely blown away at how fast November is going! But anyway, my Blog represents many things for me. Most importantly it's a form of expression. And this week, I wanted to write about something that brings me joy...

So my question is, what is your form of fun? Maybe something no one else gets but you. But whatever it is, it makes you happy and excited!

When it comes to music, it is like my therapy. I feed off of it. When my day is bad, there is always a song that can turn my frown upside down. But what takes this feeling to the next level for me is to hear my favorite music LIVE! I'm talking about flashing lights, live band, background singers, and my favorite artists center stage! It is like an exhilarating experience! Some people will never understand my fascination with concerts. I’ve had people tell me it is a waste of time to go to concerts and I’ve also had people down play my sense of fun when it comes to them.

I'm like a kid in a candy store! Every moment counts for me! I love to get to the arena early, so I can enter the contests and play the games the radio stations have available. Most people don't know, that usually they give away Meet and Greets, upgraded seats and many other things. The music is fun, the atmosphere is positive, I love it! (Although I don't get to partake in these when I go to shows out of town, I'm always running late lol) Then entering into the arena is like another step forward. Everyone excited to see the show, people standing in lines to buy merchandise. I usually like to get a keychain or something, just to take something with me. Because let's be honest, them shirts and shit be too damn high! I can make my own!! lol Then you finally make it to your seat and look out at the arena, watching the people laugh and scramble to their seats, and the anticipation builds! You constantly watch you phone, checking the time. And before you know it, the lights are out and the opening act is being welcomed on the stage. Some more enjoyable than others, but once their gone, the real burning begins. The feeling that any minute the lights will go out and who you came to see will be right there, in the same place as you, performing YOUR favorite songs. Giving you a chance to experience them in a different way. Literally bringing the music to life. And before you know it, it's over and you're left with post-concert syndrome lol. Especially if it's one of your favs! 

For me, I could even see my favorite artists more than once. Why would you wanna see the same person and show twice? People think that is a waste of time and money, well I disagree. First off all, let me break this down. Most artist, change their set lists from show to show. Otherwise, things could get a bit boring. Some think, big whoop, a few songs. No, it could be songs you really wanted to hear, maybe even your favorite songs, that could add a different dynamic to the show. And the energy is different from show to show. Like when I saw Beyonce and Jay-Z in Miami, it was the first show of the tour, everyone was so excited and didn’t know what to expect. The excitement was at a fever pitch! It was amazing. Then I went to the show in Atlanta and the experience was different. The people, the dynamic of the show, it was almost as if it was a different show. And especially if you have different seats in different areas. It’s like taking it in from a different view.

Me, I like to do it up! When I was younger I’d make posters and signs, but now I just make a shirt. And the more creative and fun my shirt is, it’s usually a shoe in to win prizes! I don’t think its childish, there are other fans that make shirts, signs and everything else and they are all ages. It’s fun! I love it when people are like, I love that shirt, where did you get it? And I respond, I made it! The time and energy that goes into it, makes it that much more memorable. It’s fun to be amongst other fans who just wanna have fun just like you do. It heightens the entire experience. 

I have a friend that thinks I’m addicted to winning tickets to concerts, no, I’m addicted to concerts, period! Especially if I know the music. So if I find out an artist is coming and I enjoy some of their music, then I’ll try to pursue winning tickets. And in the meantime, I brush up on the artist to get to know their music! It’s SO fun being at a show, vibing with other fans who know the words just like you! I don't have an issue with that, and I don't understand why anyone else would either. I love it! For those few hours inside that arena, you’re not worried about bills, illnesses, work, stress, school, heartbreak, it’s just a bliss, fun and music! You can let go, dance and be crazy! No one is judging you because they’re having fun too!

My biggest beef is when people are at a show and expect others in front of them to sit because they are sitting. It is a concert! You paid your money (or worked hard to win tickets) just like they did! If you want to sit, then sit, but don’t expect me too! I did that once, and I was miserable. AND it was a Beyonce concert, and y’all know I love my Bey. I vowed NEVER to do that again. I will dance, have fun, be silly and just let loose, because I can. And the only downside I would say is it's okay to not always have the best seats, but for those of us who has a fear of heights, sometimes it's hard to enjoy your fav when you can touch the ceiling of the arena...It's okay to be nosebleed sometimes, but when you're really into the music, you want to be able to enjoy it, without having a fear of falling. 

I guess to make a long story short, it is not a waste of money to go to concerts, to see your favs twice, if it is something you enjoy!  I’m not doing drugs, getting drunk, gambling, or paying off a hitman (no judgement for any of those things) I work hard for my money, so if that’s my pastime, why not let me enjoy what I love and how I want to enjoy it? Life is too short to let people tell dictate what you consider fun. Live your life, work hard and be happy! And that’s keeping it 100!

PS....My heart and prayers go out to the families in Paris. The world we live in is a dangerous place, and no matter if we've ever been at odds. We should all stand united against terrorism.

New Year, New Me!

It's 2:39AM, and I'm tired as shit. I fought to stay up late and now I could just drop at any minute. The last week has gone by so fast for me, I can barely keep up. It seems just yesterday my husband and I were planning to see Taylor Swift last week. Then the concert was over (And amazing btw, hands down best concert of 2015) Then next thing I knew we were home and diving into homework. Also shout out to my brother in law who turned the big 3-0, this week!!! Woohoo!!!! lol And now, it's Friday morning...Fingers crossed...gonna try and win tickets to Mary tonight, but ANYWAYS....

I’m working on a pet peeve Blog, but this I HAD to write this. Why is it that when we get into the last quarter of the year, people starting yelling “New year, New ME!” I’m a be this next year, I’m a be THAT next! Bitch please! The same tired ass shit you doing now, you’re gonna be doing next year too! Let’s break this down…

So this goes hand in hand with New Year’s Resolutions...

My question is, why do you have to wait for the impending New Year to change yourself? Why not start now? 

If you wanna try a different look, then try it! You want that new car? Then start planning and saving now! Educational goals? Plan now! Healthier eating and lifestyle? Start today! You don’t need a new year to do something different with your life! Truth is, the longer you wait, and the more unlikely you will be to stay consistent or follow through with the change.

And then this one gets me even more. So when someone goes through a negative experience, like a break up, loss of a job, etc. First thing they hollering is, “I’m about to go back to school and do me”. LMAO. I don’t mean to laugh, yes I do, but bitch, why does it take a man to leave you for you to do you? Why does he have to leave for you to take your ass back to school??? School was nowhere on your mind when you were getting dicked down…why now?

And it never fails, it is like clockwork! I had a friend that every single time something went wrong in their relationship, first thing they rambled on is, “I’m a do me, I’m a get back in school, get me a car, and I’m a be a bad bitch” And guess what….none of those things came to pass.

I have learned that it is all for show. People say shit on Facebook because they think people care about what they’re doing and who/what they’re dealing with in a situation. I’m sorry hunny, nobody gives a fuck about you "doing you". You’re gonna find another piece of dick to ride and forget all about “doing you and getting back in school”. It’s the truth! People show boat for Facebook. And we ALL know this! People hang their lives on Facebook, ups and downs and arounds! And just so their “downs” don’t seem that bad, they sugar coat things and try to make a positive outlook and say, I’m gonna do this or that. When truth is, nobody really cares. You're just putting your business out there for a bunch of haters who now have ammo to throw back at your ass when you piss them off.  You wouldn’t have to prove anything to people if you kept your shit off social media. If you really wanna set goals, then set realistic short term and long term goals and stick with them. Airing them out to Facebook is a waste of time and energy, no one cares, and if they do, a lot of times they’re hatin and wish you will fail.  Probably because either A) You say the shit every other week or B) They’re envious. (but that’s a story for a different Blog)

All I’m saying is, if you really want to change something about yourself, make realistic goals and stick with them. And eventually you will see your life change for the better. It’s not wrong to set goals for yourself after something happens, but I’m sorry you can’t be a different you every time a relationship ends or December 31^st rolls around! Simply put, it’s fake, and that’s keeping it 100!!!

Spring Valley Incident

It is 11:00AM on this nice Friday morning! This week has been a good one. I won my husband tickets to see Taylor Swift, we leave for Tampa in the morning. Most of my homework is done, so I can enjoy this week. I am able to walk. My health is good. Bills are paid. Husband's doing pretty good. Food in the frig. Dogs are great. House is clean and smelling like that Gain cleaner lol I'm blessed. I honestly can't complain for anything.

But anyway, I had so many ideas for my Blog this week. But decided to go with this topic, considering its relevance and my strong opinion on it. On Tuesday, at Spring Valley High School in South Carolina a video surfaced. In the video is a girl in a classroom being slammed to the ground by an officer and dragged to the front of the class and being handcuffed. The video can be seen below.

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Apparently the 16 year old girl was on her phone repeatedly and was asked to put it away by the teacher. She refused. She was asked to leave the class, she refused. The officer came in and she didn't listen to him either and then you can see what happened from there. Officer Ben Fields has now been released from his duties, because of this incident. He also has 2 prior accounts one which has been thrown out and the other pending.

Now looking at this video, I know EVERY parent is saying, he was wrong. No one better not touch my child like that. And I agree. The force he used wasn't necessary. BUT...here's my issue. Yeah he shouldn't have slammed and dragged her. But she was indeed being extremely defiant and disrespectful. Kids today in these schools are getting worse by the generation. Parents aren't teaching their kids to respect their authority figures at home. Parents either can't control their kids and leaving it up to the teachers to deal with their shit or just doesn't instill proper core values and respect in them for other authority figures.

No I don't have kids, but when I do. No I don't want my kids handled like this. Because I will teach them to respect me, their father, and all other authority figures. If a teacher says put the damn phone away, then you better put it away. Period! It shouldn't be out in class anyway! I'm going to make sure my kids have respect. So I know if something like this happens, it wasn't because they were acting an ass. But if I can't control my children, or they don't respect authority, then what do you expect to happen??? That girl should have put the damn phone away when asked. Had she any respect for her superiors, none of that would have been escalated.

And I know everyone is probably like Oh it's racist, oh he did too much. But the only view that is being shown is the view of that camera. I think we as adults forget that we were kids too and how kids act in these classrooms and that now a days, they are worse! Race has nothing to do with it! Every single time something happens and it happens to be an African American, the race card is pulled. Its starting to lose weight. When it really is a racist situation, it'll be ignored due to that card being pulled necessarily. Bottom line, regardless of race, handle your damn children at home, if not then someone else will!! And that's keeping it 100!

Family Ties that Bind?

It's 11:32PM, and I'm not feeling my best right now. The week yet again has gotten completely away from me. I'm finally getting into this Anatomy and Physiology class. My husband has thought of a great way for us to study this stuff. Here's to an A in this class!! My niece and I tried to win tickets to Jason Aldean ultimately after almost 3 hours we didn't win. But she did get the hoodie she wanted and I won a pair of cowboy boots for my husband. YEEHAW!!! Anyway, the highlight of my week is that my favorite country singer, Carrie Underwood released her new CD today! I had plans to make a shirt but didn't have enough iron-on letters, I got my CD though! Still haven't heard it all yet, but what I have heard is AMAZING as usual! Anyway, enough about my week! I had a conversation with my husband and my mom earlier this week and one question popped into my head....

Why is that when a relationship ends, the connections you've made with the family does too?

So let's say you've been dating someone for awhile, it's serious. You introduce this person to your family. So as time goes on, your relationship becomes more solid and they start coming around more and vice versa. Now after some years, for what ever reason, the relationship dies. The connections you made with his family and vice versa, do they just end? Are you expected to stop calling his mother on Mother's Day and birthdays? Or how about that bonding time with your brother(s). Does he stop coming over and playing video games with him (them) because he's not with you? Or how about when his sister got pregnant and you were there every step of the way. You've spend so much time with that baby, babysat...do you stop being Auntie/Uncle because you're no longer with the baby's biological Uncle? Or even with the family....would it hurt your feelings if grandma stopped baking you that coconut cake on Christmas (because she knows it's your favorite) because you're no longer dating her grandson?

This stuff happens everyday. And it's unfortunate, but the answers to those questions above are 9/10...YES!

I am lucky to have several siblings. 4 brothers and 4 sisters. Lord knows they've been in a plenty of relationships over the years lol. Whether it be marriage or just long term relationship, I have (mostly) bonded with all of their significant others. Some more than others. But over the years they have been with people that have seen me since I was a little jit playing Power Rangers, or through my boyband teenager phase listening to BSB and Nsync. And through those years, there was love on both sides. But when my sibling dumped them or did them wrong, they cut all ties with the family. But by doing so, did you ever really love us to begin with? When you called my mother "ma" did you really mean that, or did it sound cute to say at the time? How about my niece, she was a little girl when this stuff went on, when she learned to speak, she called you all Auntie, she's almost grown now, about to be off to college, where you at Auntie? Or how about me, I was little brother...or was that just to keep my big brother or sister around? I don't know. I can somewhat sympathize to some extent actually.

When relationships end, especially on bad terms, sometimes you just need a clean break. Staying in contact with those people you were getting close to like your own family is a reminder of that pain. It doesn't make it right. But you do it. Sometimes it's even hard, because you put so much energy and time into those relationships but the reminder is always there.

Even with my exes siblings, (some) I know they cared for me and vice versa, but when I was done with their brothers, I didn't want a reminder of that relationship. And THEY didn't do anything to me, but I thought it better all the way around if I cut ties. Especially once I was in a new relationship and my exes were too. The shit was just awkward, so I decided to avoid it. And even now, if something were to happen to my marriage (Heaven forbid) I couldn't imagine just walking away from my in laws. I genuinely love them all to death. They've seen me at some worse points and best. My little niece growing up, I don't wanna miss that just because my husband and I didn't work out. I just wouldn't want to do to them what my former in laws did to me.

Or how about when a friendship dies? You were close enough to me to get to know my family on a personal level. Our families know us from young teenagers/adults. I've slept in your house and you in mine. Just because we're not friends anymore...does that mean we stop caring about the people who had nothing to do with the fallout? Should they treat us any different? Just food for thought...None of the shit is ok, but it happens and sometimes it's hurtful. That's just my own personal feelings about it, and truthfully this is stuff I think about ever so often. I feel that no matter how painful, if it's so easy for you to walk away and cut ties from someone who did nothing to you, that maybe you never loved them to begin with, (and that goes for me too) and that's keeping it 100!

Girl Talk: Size, Does it Matter?

It's 5:20 PM, and I'm almost ready to go out with my husband this evening. This past week has been...a blur. I first want to apologize for the lack of Blog last week. My mind was so focused on other things that when I sat down to try and write it felt forced. And since this Blog is called 'Keep it 100',  I would be a real fraud ass bitch if I give you anything else but. So here we are and I'm in the mood for some Girl Talk and as usual...if you're uncomfortable or get offended with sex talk, go ahead and leave now, because this is about as light as it gets lol

I'm just gonna open with one basic question....Does size matter?

Now we get objectified all the damn time. Our tops want us to have big booties and they want it nice and soft and plentiful, the shit has to clap, and look stupid in them jeans. Ladies know too, their men want them with big titties, coca-cola bottle shapes and Nicki Minaj booties. Well, it's not talked about as much as what the guys do, but we objectify too! My homegirl doesn't even consider a dick big unless it's at least 10 inches and that's a starting point for her!!!

So let's get into it, because it's levels to the shit. There's growers and showers, pencils, stupid thick, Mandingo size and just plain stupid. Let's talk about the growers and showers. A grower is a guy that when soft appears to have a small penis but when he's hard he gets an inch or two and some width. (cough cough Shemar Moore) A shower...well...that's just it. What you see is what you get. Let's say you've been dating a guy and it's time to get down to the hot and heavy. You look at those big strong hands, ooh girl he wear a size 12.5!!! You're back at his place, he's kissing and rubbing you. You trying to take that belt OFF and unbutton his pants! Hormones are racing. You want that shit BAD! You finally get them pants down....and he's soft and it's about as long as your middle finger. Stop for minute, what do you do? Do you take a chance on it getting bigger when it's hard, or are you just completely turned off? Hmmmm.... Let's give him a shot, so you stroke him while he's kissing your neck. And you fling that head back because his lips on you feel so damn good and you just want to be dramatic. You slide down to suck on him to get him up to speed, and he's hard now...still about the size of your middle finger....so he's not a grower...he's a shower... Now keep in mind, he's sexy, has good potential, good head on his shoulders, but this dick is just...not...what's...up....Do you proceed because you've made it this far or do you just say fuck it, you know the sex will be whack anyway? This scenario happens all the time. Let me tell you, you could be walking out on the best thing to happen to you. He could also give amazing head and can work that ass like he's a 10. Just saying...it's a judgement call...he also may never please you sexually...gamble gamble gamble lol If I were single and in this situation, I'd probably give him a shot, teach him a few tricks and go from there. Any asshole can have a big dick, but a good booty eater with a good head on his shoulders is hard to find lol

A lot of bottoms swear up and down their man has to have a big dick. But hunny, every big dick ain't golden! A pencil (cough cough Chris Brown) is a long dick with no type of thickness. Hell you grab it hard enough you might break the shit! So let's say you've been seeing this guy for a bit. You've had sex a few times but nothing spectacular.  He's gotten comfortable...cocky even. Yeah he's kinda cute, stable living, but he thinks he just rocked your world. Eats good booty, gives pretty good head. But this 9 inch dick he's bragging on is about as thick as a stack of quarters....You've rode the dick, he's had you on your back with your legs to the moon, doggy style, standing up, in the kitchen, in the bed, whatever, you're just not feeling it. Do you continue to hope it'll get better, or shatter that ego and kick his "cocky" (pun intended) ass to the curb?.... This is a toss up for me, if he's cocky, I'd have to bring that ass back down to earth.  Unfortunately they're seldom sweet, usually these pencil dick muthafuckers are cocky as shit because it's long. So (if I were single) I would have to shatter that ego. Ladies y'all know too, you get a pencil dick and he doing overtime on that cooch, to compensate for thickness. The daddy long stroke only feels good if tearing down walls at the same time, HELLO!

On the flip side, you have those who are thick as hell! I call them stupid thick. That's that dick that has nice length and stupid thickness. That's that shit that every time he puts it in, it has you biting the pillow. That's that yes sir daddy dick right there lol. I remember a time, it was the first time me and this guy had sex, I'm all ready to go and he massage the hole a bit. Next thing I know, he starts sliding in....I was like....WAIT! wait...nope, sorry I can't do it. LMAO! OMG, that moment was like wow! That thickness was no joke boy! I'm too tight for that mess lol. But these are my favorites, give me thickness, it hits that spot. You know what they say, pain is pleasure...lol

There is a misconception that black men is the only Mandingo in this world. I've seen some (yes porn) white guys that can hang (pun intended) with these black dudes now! So don't get it twisted, white guys can be Mandingos too! I think we all know what the Mandingo is all about. He has that perfect length and perfect thickness. I have a friend that refuses these lol He says he's not a power bottom and doesn't need a big ass dick to enjoy sex. I agree. Just because you're packing the Mandingo doesn't always mean you know how to use it. It takes more than sliding in and out to put it down. And that's real talk!

Finally we have those rare dudes that is just STUPID BIG. I'm talking dick so damn big the shit make you shutter just looking at it! These dudes be so damn humble. lol They're the ones that don't talk about sex, or hint at their size. That's that creep up and get ya dick! lol I'm serious y'all. These be the dicks that you think like, how in the fuck is this shit natural. Stupid long and stupid thick. That shit ain't going in me, I'm sorry. I draw the line at some point lol. So you're dating this dude and you avoid going home with him. So after dinner and a movie, it's like, Oh I got a early day tomorrow, let's wrap it up early. lol. And when he finally get that ass alone, you're like FUCK, gotta take this shit. Laying there thinking about a damn song or some shit until you get used to it! LMAO!!  My home girl like shit like this though. Cooch so damn numb, she probably don't feel the shit no more lol. And then have the nerve to be like, "Naw baby don't run, take this dick". Muthafucker, you bend over and let me get a dildo and see how you like this stupid ass dick you trying to get me to take. lol

I enjoy sex like any other bottom and most ladies. But to answer my own question, no. Size doesn't matter. Many will disagree. You can have a smaller guy that can work the hell out of you and make you think you just ran a fucking marathon. Or have a big ass dick that can't work shit. I opt for skill. Especially when he's thick and skilled with that tongue! And that's keep it 100, Fuck that, that's Keeping it 100000000000!! lol

One of the Girls

WELCOME OCTOBER! It's 3:53AM, and I am tired as shit! I honestly don't remember much about this week, all I can tell you is that I'm behind on my homework but will have it done by Sunday! Don't ask how I blew the week away, because at this moment I don't remember...It was Monday morning, and now it's early Friday morning and my husband is badgering me to come to bed. lol But enough about my week, I was planning another route for this week's Blog all the way up until last night. Before I begin, this Blog has multiple meanings for me. It gives me a way to express myself on things that go on that are interesting to me, giving my opinion and insight on love and relationships to help other people, inspiring others as well as myself, and to reach out to people who may also feel that they don't have a voice. This is my voice and I want it to be heard loud and clear. So with that being said, I may offend some people but this is truly how I feel. (Sorry for the rambling)...

 Ok, so as most may know, I have taken a strong liking to country artist Luke Bryan. I've joined the fan club and subscribe to his app. On this app, many other fans get together and turn his live stream room into a chat room. We all talk about Luke and whatever it is that we want really. "Most" of us have become pretty close and chat off the app. Well one girl in particular started a closed Facebook group called Luke's app girls. So I sent in a request to join and was instantly accepted. Within the hour, I returned to the group to see what the conversations were like, and discovered I was no longer apart of the group. I went to the app and jokingly said, "I"m aggravated, because someone accepted me and then kicked me out" The other girls assured me it had to be some form of a mistake. I truly thought so too, hence saying my post was a joke. I then got a response from the owner of the group saying "Sorry Chris, nothing personal, but girls only". I took her words in carefully. And it wasn't until her response that I even reacted. She responded (simply, not even with negative intent) "Wasn't trying to be mean". From then, it became a back and forth thing, until I was like ok, it's cool. It hurt my feelings, but we're good. Let's keep it positive, no hard feelings. She and some of the other girls, who might I add wanted to follow me on other social sites and seem excited when I come chat, Mean girled up and took a stand with her. And that's when I realized I'm not dealing with grown adults, I'm dealing with Mean Girls, because even after I tried to squash it, they continued on and made jokes because they thought I wasn't there.

Now, some may ask, why did it hurt my feelings...because since the moment I came out as bi/curious/gay or what ever, I have ALWAYS been known as one of the girls. Not to be confused with saying, I want to BE a girl, but my girlfriends have just considered me (respectfully) as one of the girls. We chit chat about men, sex, or what ever. Stuff I can't relate to, I just don't relate to. But I've never been made to feel out of place because I am a guy until last night. It hurt my feelings because when I write my Blogs, (even my husband noticed) I not only write for my gay community, but I write for my girls as well! I never let them feel left out. When someone reads my Blog I want them to feel welcome and as if I could be talking directly to them and that they can relate, even though I'm a boy.

 It made it real for me that no matter how gay I am, or how down with the girls I am, or how cool I am, I'll never be one of the girls. And maybe that's my insecurities showing, but we all have them. It don't make me weak, it makes me human. Now don't get me wrong, she can have her girls only group, there is nothing wrong with that. There isn't. But there are so many woman out there wanting to be a part of gay culture (not to be gay, but apart of it). They want to use our slang, understand our terms, get insight into our lifestyle, but if we say gays only, we're wrong. You want to have your gay husbands and gay best friends but what do you really think about them? Now this isn't towards ALL women. I still love my ladies TO DEATH! It all comes down to treat people how you want to be treated! If you have a little homophob in you, don't make fake and phony because you think having a gay friend is cool. Be real with yourself. Because when a person like myself comes into someone's life, I come with geniality. I am myself and people love me because of my cool nature. You have no idea what purpose a person has for being in your life. That's why I try to treat everyone with respect, and accept them for who they are, and I expect it in return. As for the girl on that app, I don't have any hard feelings towards her, maybe she's homophobic, sexes, I don't know. What I can tell you is that she missed out on what could have been a good friend.

But don't get me twisted I will still rock with my ladies who rock with me, but for the ones out there calling us DIVOS, no girl, I'm a DIVA! A boss in my own right. Then there are the ones who want us around but not around YOUR  homegirls. It's like you know you love the gay boys but don't want anyone else to know, or you're scared of what anyone else will think or say. You don't want us around  your children because you fear that somehow after a brief interaction that your child would be gay, and LORD KNOWS you don't want that! You don't bring us around when your man is around because either you think your man is homophobic, or that we may try to get your man, or deep down you think we could (but that's another subject matter) Or simply you're just plain ol immature and insecure, either way this one's for you, and THAT'S Keeping it 100!

Young and the Restless

It's 5:38AM, and I'm sitting here in the dark thinking about how I'm going to compose this Blog. This week, like the last, has flown by pretty quickly. Homework is thick as ever, and I scratched another female off of my concert bucket list this week. I saw Janet Jackson's Unbreakable Tour! The concert was ok, but it was really a watered down Janet experience. There was no T & A AT ALL!!! And y'all know Janet be half naked on stage. Her production is usually out of this world...it was literally the Come Together Day of Janet concerts... But all in all, it was a moment in time I'll never forget and one that I enjoyed with my husband! This week also brought on the Fall Equinox and the start of the Fall lineup television shows. Empire, Scandal, Vampire Diaries, and Nashville are just a few that I am excited to return! -NO SPOILERS!-  lol Anyway, I write a lot for the grown and sexy crowd, but this week I'm reaching out to my young adults. When I was 18, I thought everything was going to be easy for me. My thought process was I have my job, get an apartment, have my car and live life just as I would as if I was staying with my mom. Well of course, life happened and that wasn't he case. And everyone older know how it was. You can't tell an 18 year old NOTHING! More and more they think they are ready to take on the world and with a companion by their side, they feel invincible. Here are some things I would want my younger readers to keep in mind...

Establish Strengths and Weaknesses: I say this because no one is perfect. No ONE person can do EVERYTHING. If they could they wouldn't need to be in a relationship. No matter how "independent" you are, you have to learn to lean on your partner. Identify what each other are good at and play on those things. I myself am not the greatest at balancing bills. So that is something I let my husband take care of, even from the get go. It doesn't make you weak or a bad partner, it is identifying what you are good at and what the other person is good at and finding a balance in your relationship. So you can have a successful one. Things will go more smoothly when each person stays in their lane and plays their position. Which brings me to my next topic...

Communicate: I can't say it enough. Talk. Talk. Talk. When you are young everything is fresh and new to you. There are so many things in life you have not experienced yet. Living life as a young couple isn't just about working and playing house. You have to talk to each other. Tell each other in respectful ways what is bothering you. I myself have a problem with this. I prefer to communicate through writing, but I have to break out of that. If you're feeling unappreciated, tell your partner. If things seem one-sided, tell them. Open mouths don't get fed...

Plan: If you move in with your partner, things should be established earlier on in the relationship. How will money be done. Will things be split 50/50? Who will be responsible for what? This is based off individual situations, but no one should feel like they are doing more than the other. Talk about your bills, discuss who will pay what, how much money goes into food. Things like that. Both should agree and stick to their arrangement and go from there. If you clash, find a medium that works for both of you.

Boundaries: Young adults jump so quickly into relationships now a days, they forget to set boundaries with each other. Let it be known what will be tolerated and what will not. If you need your own space and time, make that known so it is not an issue later on. How will it be when you have friends over? When you go out, will you want it to be a couples thing or a friends only thing. When these things are agreed upon in the beginning, it makes it hard to be challenged later.

And just be fair to one another. All these things above go hand and hand. Be there for each other and motivate each other. If the person you're with doesn't push you to maximize your potential, then you may have to ask yourself...why am I here? And even though this is for my young adults, these same principles can be applied to anyone starting a new relationship or moving in with their partners. Age means nothing when it comes to the fundamentals of a relationship. It's just if you're mature enough to handle the responsibility that comes with a serious relationship. And that's for anyone at any age. And above all...if you take nothing else away from this... make sure to keep it 100! lol

Money. Money! Money?

It is 2:30AM, and I'm looking at my Bacardi Pineapple Rum thinking about how it would taste in my Cranberry Juice. lol Anyway, it has been a fast week for me. I have noticed the slight change in weather. It is starting to cool down and Fall is vastly approaching. I won tickets to Luke Bryan and had an awesome time at his concert. I think my fandom has grown since attending, if that is even possible. And I'm looking forward to a much needed movie day with my husband tomorrow. So that about sums it up for me, I hope you all had a great week as well. Well let's get to it, let's say your career has taken off. You're making the money you want to make, you're living life the way you want and you're just in love with your lifestyle. You start dating someone who doesn't make as much as you. Does that matter? And I'm not talking about someone who is just trying to make you a meal ticket. I'm talking about someone who works and pulls their own at their own financial level. I can't speak for anyone else, but my answer is yes. If my husband and I were just dating and I made more than him, I wouldn't care. It should never be one-sided though, like "Oh you make more, so when we go out, you should always pay". That's bullshit! But I think things should be fair and equally yoked. People have this stereotype about men that they should always dominate and make more than their partners to be able to provide. That is not true. Because that will not always be the case! Each situation is different. What ever that particular couple has and it works for them, than that's it. Only way it won't work is if your partner has insecurities about it. Let's face it, men can be a little intimated by power and success sometimes. But I feel like if my man is strong and secure with his ability to be my man and what he can provide in our relationship, then who makes what, will not matter.

Even if the shoe is on the other foot and you're dating someone who makes more than you. Would you be ok with that? Would you be secure enough to handle what comes with dating someone who makes more than you? To be honest, I don't think it would bother me. But this is a what if situation, so who knows unless I was actually in this situation.

Let's take it up a notch, say the person you're with comes into a large sum of money, how would that affect you? I'll be honest, if my husband hit the lotto for a few million, I'm probably gonna kiss ADT goodbye! I hear so many people saying, "Oh I'd quit my job" this, that and the third. But what about your dreams? Your job is not your career, it is not what you love. So yes it is easy to say kiss my ass, I'm rich. But what about your goals? The things you are passionate about? Or even if you date someone who does have a lot of money, and they say, don't work, I got it. Would you give up on the things you love because your coins are stacked in the bank? My husband asked me, if we were rich would I still write this blog. My answer is yes. I love my blog. I have no choice but to keep it 100. I love to write. It is how I express myself best. I'd still be writing poems, books and this blog faithfully. Because I love it, it is my passion. But what about the things that are important to you? Would you still go to school to pursue your degree? Honestly, I do not know. My degree does mean a lot to me, but I would probably slow down a bit. Yeah, money doesn't last forever and you should always have a "backup plan". But sometimes that backup plan shit goes out the window. I want everyone to ask yourself, if you were rich, would you still pursue your dreams? Or would money be enough to fulfill you? And don't forget...Keep it 100!

Girl Talk: Blow

It's 12:54AM and I'm in my living room with the AC in the arctic and the room is pitch black. My drink of choice tonight is my favorite cocktail...Sex on the Beach. It is the perfect blind of fruity and liquor. Before you proceed I must flash my big and beautiful Parental Advisory Label. If you get easily offended or overly uncomfortable about sex, this isn't for you. It's ladies night and it's time for some much needed girl talk. So picture it...it's been a crazy week and you're looking forward to the weekend. Tired but looking forward to spending some much needed couples time with the boo. Ya'll finished dinner and he's gone to take a shower so ya'll can watch movies in the bed. The steam from the shower sends the sexy aroma of his body wash, (you know, the one you bought him because you love how it smells on him) is in the air. You exhale and squeeze them thighs together. Your thoughts run wild. And the intensity of your privacy area has you hot and bothered. You run to kitchen to grab a cup of ice. Like Plies said, "now she suck me with ice" You ready to get it poppin. You step in the bathroom and see the outline of his masculine body and say fuck it. You strip down and join him in the shower. "What you doing?" he asked. "I couldn't wait" you reply. Ever gave head in a shower? Tonight ladies we will dive into the act of oral sex. Now I remember about 10 years ago or so, when pretty much every girl was like...oh no, I'm not sucking no dick. That's nasty, maybe for my husband. Blah Blah Blah. Them hoes was lying! Knowing good and damn well they were going home and gobbling that damn dick down like it was a piece of Popeye's Chicken! Now a days, people have become more comfortable with the subject and admit it openly. I wanna say that a horrible stereotype is that every gay man sucks dick and loves receiving. That is not true. I know gay men who do not enjoy the sucking of a dick, whether big or small, it's not their thing. Usually they are tops. And then there are some bottoms who don't enjoy being on the receiving end...I am one of them. I don't need you to slob the knob, I'll enjoy doing it enough for the both of us! Hell some lesbians don't like getting eaten out. That was news to me, but it is true. So stop with the stereotypes that Oh you gay, you suck dick. Oh you a lesbian, you eat pussy. Just stop it!

Then there are some ladies who just boycott it completely. Now in this day and age, no girl, suck that dick. If not to completion at least in the 4-Play round! Things are getting hot and heavy, kissing, touching, rubbing and he drops them boxers (or briefs) and it's just sitting up all nice and strong. Go down there and say hello! Like what the fuck! Stop boycotting the dick! But you damn sure want him to eat that cooch though! And I know some ladies and bottoms will disagree but if you're in a good relationship, you should be sucking, especially if he enjoys it. Shit suck just to show you care, lol. It ain't right ladies , the shit just ain't right! And then you say, "Oh, I don't suck dick, but you can eat this pussy". Girl bye!

And same thing goes vice versa. If your dude tells you he don't eat the coohie, that muthefucker is lying. I have YET to meet a straight man who doesn't like doing it. So the next question you should ask is, "Did you eat your last girl pussy?" "How about the girl before her?" If that is Yes and yes and followed by a damn excuse....GIRL! THEN you stop sucking his dick! Find out what the problem is. Because he eat coochie, he just ain't eating yours! And if it's really his thing, he may be eating it somewhere else... Ladies don't stand for that shit, "Oh, yeah girl, I don't eat pussy, but you can suck this dick!" Hell NO! Quid pro quo in this bitch! We can 69 this thang on out, when he stop, you do too!

Now if you start getting bored with it, SWITCH THAT THANG UP! Get some ice! Chocolate! SOMETHING! I saw this picture of a chocolate covered dick and I was like...hey baby...I'm going to the store! lol Why not? Whip cream that thing, you don't like chocolate? They have Strawberry and Carmel as well!

Now here are some don'ts, DO NOT bite that man's stuff! The shit is sensitive and teeth hurt! Tuck em in your lips if you have too, you should not be biting him! You should not be using your hands every time, technically, I consider it cheating. Just like Waka said, "look ma no hands!" DO NOT suck the balls too hard, it's unpleasant. DO NOT complain about how long it takes him. You should already know if your man takes a while to bust. So if you're going in knowing that...just be in it for the long haul or keep it in the 4-Play rounds lol.

Ladies don't be afraid to give a little direction when he playing with that clitoris. If the shit don't feel right, find a gentle way to tell him that...Don't be put off head because of bad experiences, especially if you KNOW you like it.

Finally, something becoming more open, is the booty. Like I said before, don't act like you don't like that booty ate. The shit is fucking amazing! I prefer it over the other ANY DAY! Especially if he got good tongue work! Bottoms don't be afraid to ask these tops for it. If you're in a long committed relationship or married, your sex life should be pretty open (within reason).

If you don't like it on your knees, let him lay in the bed, spread eagle and get YOUR eagle on. And don't let anybody make you feel ashamed about what you like to do in the bedroom, with YOUR man because 9 times out of 10 they mad because they man ain't licking that shit right! And that's keeping it 100! Until next girl talk ladies and gays!

The Wr!te Up!

Hey Ya'll!!!! So welcome to the first addition of Keep it 100 Presents...THE WR!TE UP! Here I will offer my opinions and reviews on various things I experience during the week like; TV shows, new music, new restaurants and movies. So this week, although I spent most of the week watching some of the old shows we all used to watch like Moesha, The Parkers and Sister Sister. Speaking of these shows, one of the reality shows I watch is Hollywood Divas. This week was the finale of the second season. If you're not familiar it revolves around 5 actresses Paula Jai Parker, Elise Neal, Countess Vaughn, Golden Brooks and Lisa Wu. Shar Jackson also appears as a friend to the cast. In this finale, Paula and her husband Forest had their re commitment ceremony which was ghetto as all hell! Now tell me this, who in hell goes out to the beach to renew their vows with a practically empty bottle of liquor! Now the sentiment was cute, they both drink from the bottle put their vows in the bottle and ship it off to sea. But no, I need Paula show display more class next season. Give your mom back her handicap sticker, clean your house and step your game up diva! Elise Neal back-biting ass is shady as fuck! I saw a different side to her this season, she said and did many things to these ladies and when confronted the bitch tried to sugar coat it and lie. I don't really care for Golden but at least she can own up to what she say. But I have to give it to Countess, the girl was bad this season. Full of life and looking GOOD! But it is hard to watch that show and then The Parkers, it's like two different entities. And don't get me started on Shar Jackson, girl bye!

I also caught the second part of the Love and Hip-Hop:Atlanta Reunion this past Monday. What can I say, I'm a sucker for the rachet shows. This LAHH ATL Reunion was the best so far. I feel like resolutions were made and it was less ignorance. Joseline and Mimi finally came to a mutual understanding and apologized to each other. Deb and Kalenna cleared the air. Joseline also cleared the air with Jessica Dime, and Kalenna and Rasheeda is a bit up in the air I believe. Overall, it was enough drama to balance with the reconciliation. But on a rachet note, I am completely looking forward to Love And Hip: Hollywood! This upcoming second season that starts tomorrow night is going to be explosive!

Married To Medicine was a bit of a blur. Dr. Heavenly gave her normal round of shade while maintaining elegance and class. Toya know good and damn well that she not happy Mariah is back. She hasn't thought about that hoe at all. This upcoming episode the take a group trip so I'll have more feedback next time.

No music or movie news this week, but who knows what will transpire over the next week. Until then, remember to keep it 100 and check out the normal Blog! Enjoy your Labor Day and Have a great week! XOXO

Happy Birthday Bey!

It is September 4! 34 years ago, a family from Houston, Texas gave birth to a beautiful little girl and they wished all the blessings and love over their precious one. And like any parent, they wished for their first born, that all her dreams come true. Well that was an understatement. Because at the age of 34 the little baby girl grew up to be one of the world's biggest most influential entertainers and a force to be recon with in pop culture! I wanna give a shout out to my favorite singer on her 34th birthday!! The things you have accomplished and the people you have touched is unfathomable. I don't know if this will get to you, but I wanna say, I respect you so much. You work hard to give your fans the best of you and I thank you so much. You have touched my life in so many ways, although we have never met, there has been days were I didn't know if I could go on, even in my darkest hours, I got through with a prayer and a Beyoncé song! lol....It really pisses me off when people hate on this woman for no reason, because she is the hottest in the game. PERIOD! This woman works extra hard to give fans their moneys worth. EVERY TIME! She sings her heart out and lord knows this chick be slinging that hair and killin it in those heels!.... I am looking forward to your new music (hopefully soon, like REAL SOON) and the next time I get the chance to see you in concert. I have seen Beyoncé 5 times (6 including DC3) and have not been disappointed by your stage presence at all, EVER! Your music has made me feel like I can be strong when I don't feel like it, be Flawless when my flaws are open for the world to see, and be a diva even when the world looks down on me as ugly, fat or a dreadful divo. Thank you for being you and sometimes giving me the strength to be me! People are gonna hate on me for writing this, but I love Beyoncé and I wanna wish her a Happy Birthday and that's keeping it 100! 

HAPPY BIRTHDAY BEYONCÉ
 FROM THE CLARKS!!!!

Open Your Eyes

It's 1:56AM and I'm a bit tired from the week. My husband and I have done a lot of running around this week. The weekend is approaching at an accelerated rate and we haven't started on ANY of our homework for this week yet -_-. But now I smell like Gain because we've cleaned this entire home with our new Mr. Clean Gain scented cleaner lol Love this stuff. So a busy homework filled Labor Day weekend, but at least the house is clean! lol. Any who, I'm chilling with a Seagram's Jamaican Me Happy and I'm ready to write. Ok. So this one's for the ladies. I have the utmost respect for women, but sometimes these ladies seem to go deaf and blind when it comes to a man! For instance, these young girls today be with these no good, no jobs, no education fools and then oops! Oh my God! I'm pregnant! But instead of these young ladies thinking...Oh, I'm gonna get my life together and do better for my child so my child won't have to struggle, they get in there minds, that's my baby's father, we have a connection, he's gonna change when the baby comes....Girl Bye! If he wasn't shit before he came in you, then he still won't be shit with a baby in your uterus. No matter how many of these stories happen, these girls still put so much faith in these no good dudes! Just because he lay up with you, eat your food, and fuck you, doesn't mean he's gonna be your husband or a good father. Remember that! And don't get me started with these girls that wanna name these babies after a baby daddy that ain't shit! Girl, what planet are you from?! Where they do that at? (Oh yeah, EARTH!) Like what the fuck! If this mutherfucker ain't making your life easier and more secure at ALL during your pregnancy, he has NO ENTITLEMENT to have a junior! A man should compliment your life not complicate it! Then when his ass get ghost and find another dumb chick to play house with, you wanna regret the shit and give the baby a nickname...Girl Bye! Young ladies be smarter than that! Demand more from these dudes. If he can't match you or bring something more to the table, then cut your loses! Save yourself the stress, headache and pains! But taking this a step further...Let's say you already have a child and you meet a new guy. To be honest, the most important thing is not just how he treats you, but how he treats your child! How can you put up/lay up/play house with, a dude and talk about something serious, but he doesn't love your child? And don't play the coy card with me, because if you weren't so caught up and happy that you're finally getting a lil piece of dick you could notice things. How does he act around your child? Does he promote positive changes? If not, then it's a non factor. Your child should not be AFRAID of the man you're with, especially if he is not their father. Stop turning blind eyes to these things young ladies. Because then when something happens and he does something inappropriate or takes discipline too far, you're now sitting there crying like "I didn't know" "He wasn't like that before". Listen to your children. I'm sorry but if I was a single parent dating, there isn't dick good enough in this world to make me ignore my baby's pleas. When my father met my mother he took in 3 teenagers and loved them like they were his own! Supported them, nurtured them, he wasn't their father but he was definitely a strong father figure. And he treated my mother with the utmost respect. Now THAT'S a real man. Like real talk! Now I've focused on the young ladies but the older ladies do this shit too. They look down on these young girls, talking about what they should be doing, this that and the third but then get a piece of dick and be all dick sprung and acting stupid too! Anyone can make a mistake, but mid 30s, 40s and 50s, you should know better! I'm sorry you should! When 30-40 something women are fulfilled in the career (or even if their not) they make it known they're looking for a good man. It may take them some time, but they finally find the man (they think) God has sent them. Now ladies don't be sold a dollar and dream from these older men. Because they will do it! A opportunist comes in all ages, shapes and sizes! Make sure these men love your kids as well. You may feel like oh it's just teenage rebellion or some shit like that. Yeah sometimes teenagers act out when their mother starts dating a new guy, but when the shit seems out of character from your child, take heed! No matter how old you are, God will still test you if he feels you have not learned from your previous mistakes. And sometimes when the obvious signs seem to slip through the cracks, he sends his message through your child. And sometimes no matter how much of a woman of God you are, if you don't have your eyes open, you won't see what God is trying to show you. Do you hear me? Let me back that thing up one more time! If your eyes are not open to what God is trying to show you, how can you see any form of a sign that you are praying for? And that's real talk! Ladies take the time to get to know these men before you bring them around your children. Rapist, opportunist and Low Lives go to church too! They just pray for different things. One thing you never wanna do, is be so blinded by a man that you alienate everyone around you, including your child. And then when the shit hits the fan and the pieces are falling everywhere, who do you run to? The bottom line is know your worth and have standards when it comes to men. If a man seems to good to be true, then he probably is. Take your time to find out the real deal, and when you do, do not turn blind eye to the signs that he is showing you. I was once told, if someone shows you who they are, BELIEVE THEM! And that's keeping it 100!

Caitlyn: Judge Me Not

“How would your life be different if…You stopped making negative judgmental assumptions about people you encounter? Let today be the day…You look for the good in everyone you meet and respect their journey.” 
― Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free

It's 12:49AM and I've been wondering all WEEK what in the hell was I gonna write about this week. Then it occurred to me that it doesn't have to be anything earth shattering it just has to be genuine. I can just speak on things I've experienced and seen. After all, the title of my blog is "Just My Thoughts...". So last week, I saw a post on Facebook. It was a general question and a good one. Caitlyn Jenner may go to prison, would she go to a male correctional facility or a female one. Now before I give my answer, I know a lot of people are tired of talking about Caitlyn, but I have yet to really share my own personal thoughts. So here we go. She SHOULD indeed go to a women's correctional facility, as she does identify as a female. But that is not what bothered me, the question is indeed a fair one to ask. What was disturbing was that one of the comments not only referred to her as a HIM, but made very disgusting comments like; "I don't support the science project" and "you spelled Bruce wrong." And that was to name a couple. What this person did not realize is yes he is indeed entitled to his own opinion, but you are not only disrespecting her but all transgenders alike. We as humans tend to fear and condemn things we do not understand. So that part of his ignorance is a given, but what is inexcusable is that he did not educate himself on a matter he cannot relate to nor understand before making derogatory comments. The fact is this is why a lot of our youth and even adults are committing suicide. Because people are not taking the time to educate themselves about a particular lifestyle before judging it. People feel so afraid to be themselves and fear they would be severely ridiculed so they end their lives, before they even begin to live. And how can you even say you've lived if you spend your life hiding who you are. I think it is a beautiful thing to be able to be yourself. Your TRUE self! It is not only beautiful but BRAVE. I do not however agree with the media circus Caitlyn Jenner has turned into. I also don't agree that she waited "too long" to transition. I also do not agree with how she told Khloe she was concerned with HER kids. But Kim, Khloe and Kourtney are as much her children as the others. I do slightly agree with what he said about Kris Jenner in Vanity Fair. How if she accepted him, they would still be together. Now granted, I know that woman is hurt and all that. But let's be real for a second, unconditionally love is just that unconditional. If you love a person, truly and deeply, you love them beyond physical appearance. If not, then it wasn't true love. I don't think that was a DISS at Kris but a realization that what they had was not truly unconditional. Yes they loved each other, shared many years and had children, but it wasn't unconditional. You can't put a condition on love. People are also saying, she waited too long to do this, especially health wise. All those surgeries at an older age may not be ideal, but you only live life once, there are no sequels. It's not a shame that she waited until she was much older, it is a shame that she lived her entire life in hiding. Underneath the gold medals, bunch of kids and marriages, she could not truly be herself. I myself am not transgender but I am a gay male. Before I was comfortable with myself, I forced a facade and wore a mask to hide the great person I was. I couldn't be into pop music, I couldn't dance to Britney, I couldn't be an Independent Woman or declare that I don't want no scrubs in my life. I was suppose to be the straight black boy, that listened to the Hot Boyz and dated girls. It took a long time for me to shed all the bullshit and stop giving a FUCK about what people said. But some people don't find that strength. I think people forget that we are indeed human. No matter what gender you identify with, we are human. Caitlyn Jenner is a human being. It is a respect factor. How can you disrespect someone you don't even know because of what they want to do with their life!? And half of you that throw shade at Caitlyn can't hold a damn candle to her. You taking Instagram selfies but your tracks showing, you at the clubs wearing them hair store flip flops, you guys are calling her a science project but you can't get a date with a woman with class or can't keep her because you're childish, broke or your dick game is WHACK...The bottom line is show respect and stop judging. You have no idea what effects you may have on the person with the nasty things you say. Words cut.... Let people live their lives. And stop making it so hard for more people to be brave in this world! Keep in mind that life is like a fucking boomerang, you get back what you put out...and that's keeping it 100!

PS: And for those who might want to educate themselves on Caitlyn, try checking out her show I Am Cait, it comes on Sunday nights on E!. I won't lie, it is a bit boring, but it strips down to the person she is without the media hoopla.

I Am Changing

It is 1:40AM and I am sitting here enjoying the last bit of my no school work before Fall Semester begins Monday. My husband and I have recently taking a liking to the Starz show 'Power'. What's amazing is not just the main story line, but the sub-stories and meanings as well. (Spoilers for those who haven't seen it) In the show, Omari Hardick plays a character named Ghost. Now without giving away the premise, he has people around him who have been down with him since childhood and teenage years. Or what some may refer to as, Day 1 Friends! lol Now, the problem comes in at the fact they all expect him to be the same person he was not only when they met him but over the years. No matter how much his life changes and he desperately wants change, everyone around him wants him to remain that same person from the "back in the day". (Didn't give too much away, trust me there is SO much more to the story for those who haven't seen it, go watch, it's a must see!) Now, I bring this up to say now a days people keep saying, No new friends. I'm down with my day 1! I disagree. Because ultimately you out grow some people. Have you ever had that one friend or friends that you've known for years upon years and they still expect the same things from you that you've did when you were teenagers and early 20s. Now it may be cute for some to parade around saying, Oh I'm the same me, nothing has changed. Well I'm sorry, but that is sad. I look at myself 10 years ago, and even 5 years ago and I am not the same person. I view the things around me differently and even want different things. I have experienced different things, different cultures, furthered my education and I just like preferences have grown. A lot of my superficial and immature views about life have well...evolved. And that is not a bad thing. It is healthy to expand yourself out of your own bubble. Now when I say you "out grow" people, I'm not saying that to say, I'm better than someone or more advanced. I say that to say we are on two different levels. I am a married, college educated, late 20s man. The way I carry myself, my views on education, the importance of stability, it all is a representation of me and who I am. Don't get me wrong, I'm still Chris, I'm still goofy, ditsy, and fun, but my priorities have shifted. Sometimes I long for the conversation of someone with the same struggles as me. College education, wanting to buy a house, building a family, securing a future, preparing for a career, possibly moving out of state...So when you say, no new friends, I'm like to hell with that, please let me find a new friend, someone who can relate to my current situation, someone who can appreciate me as I am today.I'm not saying completely diss and dismiss your old friends or that I don't love my friends, because I do, each and every one of them, but not a one of them I can talk to about the stress of finals and making sure I'm taking the right classes for my degree. Only a serious couple of them I can talk to about wanting to buy a house and making sure it is the right fit for my family, only one or two I can talk to about marriage. So when my husband asks me am I excited for Fall Semester and taking classes on campus, YES, I want to meet more college educated individuals to share my passions and struggles with. When I say I am changing, it is because I am. And I don't believe it is in a negative way, I'm just growing up. For the first time in my life, I really have a grown state of mind. And I just want that for those around me. And you should too. If you surround yourself with negative people or people that aren't happy in their own situations, what do YOU think the outcome of that is? You should want people around you who will feed into your future and bring something positive and productive. You should want people around you who sees you for who you are and see the positive glow you have about you. Just wanting someone to relate to.  But not every change is your fault for not being relatable. For instance, my best friend is experiencing the joys and (sometimes not so joyous days) of motherhood. Now I can't even begin to comprehend what it is like to round up a toddler and an infant and still try to maintain a social life. I say I get it and understand but to her I'll never truly understand until I become a parent. And there's nothing wrong with that, but I'm sure she too or used to want someone to talk to who is a parent/mother that can relate.  Anyways back on topic, doesn't it get tiresome when you have so much going on for yourself and then someone comes around and judges you off of the shit you USED to do. But it's not their fault, will it is actually, they just haven't grown enough in their own lives to be able to comprehend the level you're on right now, and that's keeping it 100!