Girl Talk: Is he? Or Isn't he?

It's 9:17PM, it's a nice Saturday night, I got a Seagram's Lime Margarita next to me (about empty) and I'm in complete chill mode. It's been a good week. It really went by too damn quick if you ask me. I'm done with all my homework, so it's a real chill day. I'm just watching movies and drinking lol A special and dear friend of mine, more like family actually, lost her son earlier this week. This family really means a lot to me, and I am devastated. I can't even think on it too much or I'll start crying. So I would like everyone to say a special pray for her and her family.

Well, Thanksgiving is less than a week away and I'm ready to EAT!! I'm so excited for the holidays. I'm just in a really blessed place, that's all I can say.

Anyway, as usually if you're offended by sex talk and profanity, you should check out last week's Blog instead. Because this is as clean as it gets... Because I'm about to dial it WAYYYYY up! Ok so let's get to it, ladies, you've been dating your man for a while now. We won't put a number on it because you feeling comfortable with a person, depends on you and there's no telling how long or soon that could be. But y'all are comfortable with each other. Communication is good. The two of you are progressing, and sex is good as well. He comes to you one day and say he wants to try some new things in the bedroom. You're immediate reaction is a bit apprehensive but you prob for him to explain further. After a few minutes, he admits he wants to try toys. So you agree, hoping he's just talking. A few weeks after having this conversation, he says nothing about it. You feel relieved because you think you've dodged a bullet. Because "something new" and "toys" could be ANYTHING. After all, you've read (or seen) 50 Shades of Grey. So over these few weeks, you've been sucking that dick a bit longer, doing it without hands, riding that dick like a porn star, instead of missionary. You even let him put it in the butt once. So you think you good and then he comes with a black bag. Now you're nervous, and he reminds you about the toys. Yep, sorry girl, not only does he remembers, but you took that doggy style for nothing. lol He pulls out a strap on. You're confused. He hands it to you and say, I want you to fuck me tonight.....What do you say next????

So to my gays, do you think that if a straight man wants dick in his ass, that he is gay?

And how about my ladies, is it gay for your man to want you to fuck him? Or eat his booty? Or hell, if he likes fucking you doggy style.

Now some people think that the answer is no, and I'm a tell you why. Some feel, sex is just that, SEX. What a man does sexually with his woman, does not define his sexuality. If he's not attracted to men, or want to have sex with men. Then he's not gay. After all, the definition of being Homosexual, is having an attraction for the same sex. And clearly he does not(...or so he says) He just wants you, his lady, to fuck him.

Some people say yes, because that is how gay men have sex. They do it in the butt. So if my man wants a dick in his butt, it's gay. Or hell, anything to do with the butt, he's gay. Some people feel it is an untapped area for a man and should remain that way. Ain't no grocery eatin biiii!!!! lol (A little ratchet humor)

I'm personally on the fence about this one. Yes I agree, there is nothing wrong with sexual freedom/expression. If he isn't attracted to men, then technically, no he's not gay. I know that's a hard pill for some to swallow (no pun intended) But that is the truth.

But even for my bottoms, if your top turns around and says, "Bae, I'm ready for that dick, I want you to top me. Let's not put limits on our sex life". Do you think he's as any less of a man or top? Don't be ashamed, flip flop that thing! 69 on that oral and take turns! You're so caught up in role playing, that we forget our relationships are not conventional, why be held down by the same standards of those who are not like us? I'm just saying. You can be straight bottom, but be open to the possibility that one day, you could be flip flopping. And sometimes it good too flip flop! Teach these tops what it's like! Some of them are so aggressive and have no mercy on the hole! But anyway, I'm getting off topic, lol


You know, there's a double standard here...why is that if a woman gets her coochie ate, or titties sucked on by a woman, she's not a lesbian because she's not attracted to women. But if a man gets a blow job from a guy, oh he's gay off rip. It's all bullshit to me. I wish we lived in a world where people could be themselves without judgement. It's stupid!

But we as society, even I'm guilty of it, put restraints on our sex lives because of what we believe to be "normal" and "acceptable". I'll be honest with you, I think it is a bit fruity for a straight man to want to be fucked. He may not be GAY, but that's a little suspect to me. I'm just saying, Every relationship has it's own thing, and sometimes you gotta roll with the punches. call me what you want. I'm a product of this world and I'm human. I WANT to believe in sexual freedom and blur the lines. I'm getting there, just not quite there YET, call me whatever, but at least I can keep it 100!