Cheaters

Cheaters….can’t stand em…any questions? Anything related to the word cheat…equals lie. For starters, if someone tells you they cheated because of this or that and it should be ok, that’s a lie. Nothing justifies cheating. I don’t care if your lover cheated first. Two wrongs don’t make a right. If you’re gonna stay with them after their indiscretions, then you should truly forgive them and move forward. I don’t give a damn if they’re not doing something sexually, for whatever reason. That doesn’t generate a go fuck em all pass for you! I don’t give a fuck if your lover shot you in the foot, if you’re still there then you should be willing to forgive them, not coming up with ways to get back at them. Just because someone hurts you in some way doesn’t give you the right to violate them back. Granted we’re all human and I have a strong vindictive urge of revenge when I’m wronged, but at some point when you want your relationship to work you have to truly forgive and move forward. If you can’t then let it go and move on with your life. That’s life, it is what it is. You have to ask yourself is this worth it? Can it be fixed? Just leave them if they hurt you that badly beyond repair. Hurting them won’t make you feel better.

If someone tells you everyone cheats, that’s a lie. Is everyone capable of cheating? Call me cynical but I’ve come to not put anything pass a person’s moral character. Any person is capable of anything. But that doesn’t mean any and every person will do the unthinkable or act immorally. Every man is not a cheater. Gay or straight. I have come across some genuinely good men in my 28 years. Men that are faithful and loyal. They would just leave instead of cheat. Woman too. People think men are the ultimate evil, like they can’t resist the temptations put in front of them. But women act on impulse as well. When they feel lonely or unappreciated, all it takes is the right man on the right day. Don’t act like ya’ll haven’t seen Tyler Perry’s Temptation. Bottom line is, it is all wrong. If you’re not happy, leave. Don’t be selfish trying to have your cake and eat it too. If you can work it out, then do so. Everyone just wants to be happy at the end of the day, stop the justifications and lies and live in your truth. You fuck up, own it. You forgive, release it. And that’s keeping it 100!

Ask Chris: Love Triangle

What’s up all my real 100s! It’s the first edition of my new segment Ask Chris. You can contact me on any of my social media outlets and ask me a question and I’ll respond! Today’s question comes all the way from Missouri!

“Dear Chris, I need a blog on what you do when you fall for a guy that is already married but has told u several times he wants to divorce her. Yes, we’ve kissed. But I really like him. I briefly considered not moving cuz of this guy. Honestly, I’m not a homewrecker. This is the first married man I have gotten involved with.”

Ok my fellow real 100, first off, I’m not here to judge you. This is strictly my opinion, but you know I’m a keep it 100 with you. These things never end well. What is he really doing for you, for you to fall for him? Stealing little moments away, can’t call after a certain time, the sneaking around…It all gets real old, really quick. If a man wants to make you his number one, you will be. He’d stop telling you he’s “going to” divorce her and it would be done. He’s not gonna leave her, they rarely do. If he will do this to her, his wife, someone he (once) loved and took vows with, what will he do to you? If his marriage is that horrible, why hasn’t he already divorced her before trying to step to you? If it were me, I wouldn’t stop my plans for him, because he’s definitely not stopping his life for you. You deserve better than this. And you ARE better than this. Imagine if it were you. How would you feel about your husband/boyfriend kissing another woman? Sometimes you have to take yourself out of your own feelings and put yourself in hers. It’s ok to be selfish and do things to make YOU happy at times but not when it comes to someone else’s union. This is just my opinion. I have to say it straight forward so hopefully you’ll take a step back and get a good look at the situation. I hope this helps. It’s never a good thing being someone’s side ANYTHING. It appears cute in songs, but even when you strip it down to real life, it’s an unnecessary and sad situation. Good luck to you and thanks for keeping it 100 with me!

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