Girl Talk: Is he? Or Isn't he?

It's 9:17PM, it's a nice Saturday night, I got a Seagram's Lime Margarita next to me (about empty) and I'm in complete chill mode. It's been a good week. It really went by too damn quick if you ask me. I'm done with all my homework, so it's a real chill day. I'm just watching movies and drinking lol A special and dear friend of mine, more like family actually, lost her son earlier this week. This family really means a lot to me, and I am devastated. I can't even think on it too much or I'll start crying. So I would like everyone to say a special pray for her and her family.

Well, Thanksgiving is less than a week away and I'm ready to EAT!! I'm so excited for the holidays. I'm just in a really blessed place, that's all I can say.

Anyway, as usually if you're offended by sex talk and profanity, you should check out last week's Blog instead. Because this is as clean as it gets... Because I'm about to dial it WAYYYYY up! Ok so let's get to it, ladies, you've been dating your man for a while now. We won't put a number on it because you feeling comfortable with a person, depends on you and there's no telling how long or soon that could be. But y'all are comfortable with each other. Communication is good. The two of you are progressing, and sex is good as well. He comes to you one day and say he wants to try some new things in the bedroom. You're immediate reaction is a bit apprehensive but you prob for him to explain further. After a few minutes, he admits he wants to try toys. So you agree, hoping he's just talking. A few weeks after having this conversation, he says nothing about it. You feel relieved because you think you've dodged a bullet. Because "something new" and "toys" could be ANYTHING. After all, you've read (or seen) 50 Shades of Grey. So over these few weeks, you've been sucking that dick a bit longer, doing it without hands, riding that dick like a porn star, instead of missionary. You even let him put it in the butt once. So you think you good and then he comes with a black bag. Now you're nervous, and he reminds you about the toys. Yep, sorry girl, not only does he remembers, but you took that doggy style for nothing. lol He pulls out a strap on. You're confused. He hands it to you and say, I want you to fuck me tonight.....What do you say next????

So to my gays, do you think that if a straight man wants dick in his ass, that he is gay?

And how about my ladies, is it gay for your man to want you to fuck him? Or eat his booty? Or hell, if he likes fucking you doggy style.

Now some people think that the answer is no, and I'm a tell you why. Some feel, sex is just that, SEX. What a man does sexually with his woman, does not define his sexuality. If he's not attracted to men, or want to have sex with men. Then he's not gay. After all, the definition of being Homosexual, is having an attraction for the same sex. And clearly he does not(...or so he says) He just wants you, his lady, to fuck him.

Some people say yes, because that is how gay men have sex. They do it in the butt. So if my man wants a dick in his butt, it's gay. Or hell, anything to do with the butt, he's gay. Some people feel it is an untapped area for a man and should remain that way. Ain't no grocery eatin biiii!!!! lol (A little ratchet humor)

I'm personally on the fence about this one. Yes I agree, there is nothing wrong with sexual freedom/expression. If he isn't attracted to men, then technically, no he's not gay. I know that's a hard pill for some to swallow (no pun intended) But that is the truth.

But even for my bottoms, if your top turns around and says, "Bae, I'm ready for that dick, I want you to top me. Let's not put limits on our sex life". Do you think he's as any less of a man or top? Don't be ashamed, flip flop that thing! 69 on that oral and take turns! You're so caught up in role playing, that we forget our relationships are not conventional, why be held down by the same standards of those who are not like us? I'm just saying. You can be straight bottom, but be open to the possibility that one day, you could be flip flopping. And sometimes it good too flip flop! Teach these tops what it's like! Some of them are so aggressive and have no mercy on the hole! But anyway, I'm getting off topic, lol


You know, there's a double standard here...why is that if a woman gets her coochie ate, or titties sucked on by a woman, she's not a lesbian because she's not attracted to women. But if a man gets a blow job from a guy, oh he's gay off rip. It's all bullshit to me. I wish we lived in a world where people could be themselves without judgement. It's stupid!

But we as society, even I'm guilty of it, put restraints on our sex lives because of what we believe to be "normal" and "acceptable". I'll be honest with you, I think it is a bit fruity for a straight man to want to be fucked. He may not be GAY, but that's a little suspect to me. I'm just saying, Every relationship has it's own thing, and sometimes you gotta roll with the punches. call me what you want. I'm a product of this world and I'm human. I WANT to believe in sexual freedom and blur the lines. I'm getting there, just not quite there YET, call me whatever, but at least I can keep it 100!

LIVE!

It's 4:26 PM, and abnormally, I'm sleepy. So if I start typing in circles forgive me lol This week has definitely been better than last week. And strangely enough, I'm in a terrific mood today! I just woke up feeling great! I guess Fridays can do that to a person! Most of my homework is pretty much done. All I have left to do is a Sheep Brain dissection....YUCK! I know! I'm totally not looking forward to it. It's hard to believe Thanksgiving is less than 2 weeks away! I'm completely blown away at how fast November is going! But anyway, my Blog represents many things for me. Most importantly it's a form of expression. And this week, I wanted to write about something that brings me joy...

So my question is, what is your form of fun? Maybe something no one else gets but you. But whatever it is, it makes you happy and excited!

When it comes to music, it is like my therapy. I feed off of it. When my day is bad, there is always a song that can turn my frown upside down. But what takes this feeling to the next level for me is to hear my favorite music LIVE! I'm talking about flashing lights, live band, background singers, and my favorite artists center stage! It is like an exhilarating experience! Some people will never understand my fascination with concerts. I’ve had people tell me it is a waste of time to go to concerts and I’ve also had people down play my sense of fun when it comes to them.

I'm like a kid in a candy store! Every moment counts for me! I love to get to the arena early, so I can enter the contests and play the games the radio stations have available. Most people don't know, that usually they give away Meet and Greets, upgraded seats and many other things. The music is fun, the atmosphere is positive, I love it! (Although I don't get to partake in these when I go to shows out of town, I'm always running late lol) Then entering into the arena is like another step forward. Everyone excited to see the show, people standing in lines to buy merchandise. I usually like to get a keychain or something, just to take something with me. Because let's be honest, them shirts and shit be too damn high! I can make my own!! lol Then you finally make it to your seat and look out at the arena, watching the people laugh and scramble to their seats, and the anticipation builds! You constantly watch you phone, checking the time. And before you know it, the lights are out and the opening act is being welcomed on the stage. Some more enjoyable than others, but once their gone, the real burning begins. The feeling that any minute the lights will go out and who you came to see will be right there, in the same place as you, performing YOUR favorite songs. Giving you a chance to experience them in a different way. Literally bringing the music to life. And before you know it, it's over and you're left with post-concert syndrome lol. Especially if it's one of your favs! 

For me, I could even see my favorite artists more than once. Why would you wanna see the same person and show twice? People think that is a waste of time and money, well I disagree. First off all, let me break this down. Most artist, change their set lists from show to show. Otherwise, things could get a bit boring. Some think, big whoop, a few songs. No, it could be songs you really wanted to hear, maybe even your favorite songs, that could add a different dynamic to the show. And the energy is different from show to show. Like when I saw Beyonce and Jay-Z in Miami, it was the first show of the tour, everyone was so excited and didn’t know what to expect. The excitement was at a fever pitch! It was amazing. Then I went to the show in Atlanta and the experience was different. The people, the dynamic of the show, it was almost as if it was a different show. And especially if you have different seats in different areas. It’s like taking it in from a different view.

Me, I like to do it up! When I was younger I’d make posters and signs, but now I just make a shirt. And the more creative and fun my shirt is, it’s usually a shoe in to win prizes! I don’t think its childish, there are other fans that make shirts, signs and everything else and they are all ages. It’s fun! I love it when people are like, I love that shirt, where did you get it? And I respond, I made it! The time and energy that goes into it, makes it that much more memorable. It’s fun to be amongst other fans who just wanna have fun just like you do. It heightens the entire experience. 

I have a friend that thinks I’m addicted to winning tickets to concerts, no, I’m addicted to concerts, period! Especially if I know the music. So if I find out an artist is coming and I enjoy some of their music, then I’ll try to pursue winning tickets. And in the meantime, I brush up on the artist to get to know their music! It’s SO fun being at a show, vibing with other fans who know the words just like you! I don't have an issue with that, and I don't understand why anyone else would either. I love it! For those few hours inside that arena, you’re not worried about bills, illnesses, work, stress, school, heartbreak, it’s just a bliss, fun and music! You can let go, dance and be crazy! No one is judging you because they’re having fun too!

My biggest beef is when people are at a show and expect others in front of them to sit because they are sitting. It is a concert! You paid your money (or worked hard to win tickets) just like they did! If you want to sit, then sit, but don’t expect me too! I did that once, and I was miserable. AND it was a Beyonce concert, and y’all know I love my Bey. I vowed NEVER to do that again. I will dance, have fun, be silly and just let loose, because I can. And the only downside I would say is it's okay to not always have the best seats, but for those of us who has a fear of heights, sometimes it's hard to enjoy your fav when you can touch the ceiling of the arena...It's okay to be nosebleed sometimes, but when you're really into the music, you want to be able to enjoy it, without having a fear of falling. 

I guess to make a long story short, it is not a waste of money to go to concerts, to see your favs twice, if it is something you enjoy!  I’m not doing drugs, getting drunk, gambling, or paying off a hitman (no judgement for any of those things) I work hard for my money, so if that’s my pastime, why not let me enjoy what I love and how I want to enjoy it? Life is too short to let people tell dictate what you consider fun. Live your life, work hard and be happy! And that’s keeping it 100!

PS....My heart and prayers go out to the families in Paris. The world we live in is a dangerous place, and no matter if we've ever been at odds. We should all stand united against terrorism.

New Year, New Me!

It's 2:39AM, and I'm tired as shit. I fought to stay up late and now I could just drop at any minute. The last week has gone by so fast for me, I can barely keep up. It seems just yesterday my husband and I were planning to see Taylor Swift last week. Then the concert was over (And amazing btw, hands down best concert of 2015) Then next thing I knew we were home and diving into homework. Also shout out to my brother in law who turned the big 3-0, this week!!! Woohoo!!!! lol And now, it's Friday morning...Fingers crossed...gonna try and win tickets to Mary tonight, but ANYWAYS....

I’m working on a pet peeve Blog, but this I HAD to write this. Why is it that when we get into the last quarter of the year, people starting yelling “New year, New ME!” I’m a be this next year, I’m a be THAT next! Bitch please! The same tired ass shit you doing now, you’re gonna be doing next year too! Let’s break this down…

So this goes hand in hand with New Year’s Resolutions...

My question is, why do you have to wait for the impending New Year to change yourself? Why not start now? 

If you wanna try a different look, then try it! You want that new car? Then start planning and saving now! Educational goals? Plan now! Healthier eating and lifestyle? Start today! You don’t need a new year to do something different with your life! Truth is, the longer you wait, and the more unlikely you will be to stay consistent or follow through with the change.

And then this one gets me even more. So when someone goes through a negative experience, like a break up, loss of a job, etc. First thing they hollering is, “I’m about to go back to school and do me”. LMAO. I don’t mean to laugh, yes I do, but bitch, why does it take a man to leave you for you to do you? Why does he have to leave for you to take your ass back to school??? School was nowhere on your mind when you were getting dicked down…why now?

And it never fails, it is like clockwork! I had a friend that every single time something went wrong in their relationship, first thing they rambled on is, “I’m a do me, I’m a get back in school, get me a car, and I’m a be a bad bitch” And guess what….none of those things came to pass.

I have learned that it is all for show. People say shit on Facebook because they think people care about what they’re doing and who/what they’re dealing with in a situation. I’m sorry hunny, nobody gives a fuck about you "doing you". You’re gonna find another piece of dick to ride and forget all about “doing you and getting back in school”. It’s the truth! People show boat for Facebook. And we ALL know this! People hang their lives on Facebook, ups and downs and arounds! And just so their “downs” don’t seem that bad, they sugar coat things and try to make a positive outlook and say, I’m gonna do this or that. When truth is, nobody really cares. You're just putting your business out there for a bunch of haters who now have ammo to throw back at your ass when you piss them off.  You wouldn’t have to prove anything to people if you kept your shit off social media. If you really wanna set goals, then set realistic short term and long term goals and stick with them. Airing them out to Facebook is a waste of time and energy, no one cares, and if they do, a lot of times they’re hatin and wish you will fail.  Probably because either A) You say the shit every other week or B) They’re envious. (but that’s a story for a different Blog)

All I’m saying is, if you really want to change something about yourself, make realistic goals and stick with them. And eventually you will see your life change for the better. It’s not wrong to set goals for yourself after something happens, but I’m sorry you can’t be a different you every time a relationship ends or December 31^st rolls around! Simply put, it’s fake, and that’s keeping it 100!!!