Spring Valley Incident

It is 11:00AM on this nice Friday morning! This week has been a good one. I won my husband tickets to see Taylor Swift, we leave for Tampa in the morning. Most of my homework is done, so I can enjoy this week. I am able to walk. My health is good. Bills are paid. Husband's doing pretty good. Food in the frig. Dogs are great. House is clean and smelling like that Gain cleaner lol I'm blessed. I honestly can't complain for anything.

But anyway, I had so many ideas for my Blog this week. But decided to go with this topic, considering its relevance and my strong opinion on it. On Tuesday, at Spring Valley High School in South Carolina a video surfaced. In the video is a girl in a classroom being slammed to the ground by an officer and dragged to the front of the class and being handcuffed. The video can be seen below.

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Apparently the 16 year old girl was on her phone repeatedly and was asked to put it away by the teacher. She refused. She was asked to leave the class, she refused. The officer came in and she didn't listen to him either and then you can see what happened from there. Officer Ben Fields has now been released from his duties, because of this incident. He also has 2 prior accounts one which has been thrown out and the other pending.

Now looking at this video, I know EVERY parent is saying, he was wrong. No one better not touch my child like that. And I agree. The force he used wasn't necessary. BUT...here's my issue. Yeah he shouldn't have slammed and dragged her. But she was indeed being extremely defiant and disrespectful. Kids today in these schools are getting worse by the generation. Parents aren't teaching their kids to respect their authority figures at home. Parents either can't control their kids and leaving it up to the teachers to deal with their shit or just doesn't instill proper core values and respect in them for other authority figures.

No I don't have kids, but when I do. No I don't want my kids handled like this. Because I will teach them to respect me, their father, and all other authority figures. If a teacher says put the damn phone away, then you better put it away. Period! It shouldn't be out in class anyway! I'm going to make sure my kids have respect. So I know if something like this happens, it wasn't because they were acting an ass. But if I can't control my children, or they don't respect authority, then what do you expect to happen??? That girl should have put the damn phone away when asked. Had she any respect for her superiors, none of that would have been escalated.

And I know everyone is probably like Oh it's racist, oh he did too much. But the only view that is being shown is the view of that camera. I think we as adults forget that we were kids too and how kids act in these classrooms and that now a days, they are worse! Race has nothing to do with it! Every single time something happens and it happens to be an African American, the race card is pulled. Its starting to lose weight. When it really is a racist situation, it'll be ignored due to that card being pulled necessarily. Bottom line, regardless of race, handle your damn children at home, if not then someone else will!! And that's keeping it 100!

Family Ties that Bind?

It's 11:32PM, and I'm not feeling my best right now. The week yet again has gotten completely away from me. I'm finally getting into this Anatomy and Physiology class. My husband has thought of a great way for us to study this stuff. Here's to an A in this class!! My niece and I tried to win tickets to Jason Aldean ultimately after almost 3 hours we didn't win. But she did get the hoodie she wanted and I won a pair of cowboy boots for my husband. YEEHAW!!! Anyway, the highlight of my week is that my favorite country singer, Carrie Underwood released her new CD today! I had plans to make a shirt but didn't have enough iron-on letters, I got my CD though! Still haven't heard it all yet, but what I have heard is AMAZING as usual! Anyway, enough about my week! I had a conversation with my husband and my mom earlier this week and one question popped into my head....

Why is that when a relationship ends, the connections you've made with the family does too?

So let's say you've been dating someone for awhile, it's serious. You introduce this person to your family. So as time goes on, your relationship becomes more solid and they start coming around more and vice versa. Now after some years, for what ever reason, the relationship dies. The connections you made with his family and vice versa, do they just end? Are you expected to stop calling his mother on Mother's Day and birthdays? Or how about that bonding time with your brother(s). Does he stop coming over and playing video games with him (them) because he's not with you? Or how about when his sister got pregnant and you were there every step of the way. You've spend so much time with that baby, babysat...do you stop being Auntie/Uncle because you're no longer with the baby's biological Uncle? Or even with the family....would it hurt your feelings if grandma stopped baking you that coconut cake on Christmas (because she knows it's your favorite) because you're no longer dating her grandson?

This stuff happens everyday. And it's unfortunate, but the answers to those questions above are 9/10...YES!

I am lucky to have several siblings. 4 brothers and 4 sisters. Lord knows they've been in a plenty of relationships over the years lol. Whether it be marriage or just long term relationship, I have (mostly) bonded with all of their significant others. Some more than others. But over the years they have been with people that have seen me since I was a little jit playing Power Rangers, or through my boyband teenager phase listening to BSB and Nsync. And through those years, there was love on both sides. But when my sibling dumped them or did them wrong, they cut all ties with the family. But by doing so, did you ever really love us to begin with? When you called my mother "ma" did you really mean that, or did it sound cute to say at the time? How about my niece, she was a little girl when this stuff went on, when she learned to speak, she called you all Auntie, she's almost grown now, about to be off to college, where you at Auntie? Or how about me, I was little brother...or was that just to keep my big brother or sister around? I don't know. I can somewhat sympathize to some extent actually.

When relationships end, especially on bad terms, sometimes you just need a clean break. Staying in contact with those people you were getting close to like your own family is a reminder of that pain. It doesn't make it right. But you do it. Sometimes it's even hard, because you put so much energy and time into those relationships but the reminder is always there.

Even with my exes siblings, (some) I know they cared for me and vice versa, but when I was done with their brothers, I didn't want a reminder of that relationship. And THEY didn't do anything to me, but I thought it better all the way around if I cut ties. Especially once I was in a new relationship and my exes were too. The shit was just awkward, so I decided to avoid it. And even now, if something were to happen to my marriage (Heaven forbid) I couldn't imagine just walking away from my in laws. I genuinely love them all to death. They've seen me at some worse points and best. My little niece growing up, I don't wanna miss that just because my husband and I didn't work out. I just wouldn't want to do to them what my former in laws did to me.

Or how about when a friendship dies? You were close enough to me to get to know my family on a personal level. Our families know us from young teenagers/adults. I've slept in your house and you in mine. Just because we're not friends anymore...does that mean we stop caring about the people who had nothing to do with the fallout? Should they treat us any different? Just food for thought...None of the shit is ok, but it happens and sometimes it's hurtful. That's just my own personal feelings about it, and truthfully this is stuff I think about ever so often. I feel that no matter how painful, if it's so easy for you to walk away and cut ties from someone who did nothing to you, that maybe you never loved them to begin with, (and that goes for me too) and that's keeping it 100!

Girl Talk: Size, Does it Matter?

It's 5:20 PM, and I'm almost ready to go out with my husband this evening. This past week has been...a blur. I first want to apologize for the lack of Blog last week. My mind was so focused on other things that when I sat down to try and write it felt forced. And since this Blog is called 'Keep it 100',  I would be a real fraud ass bitch if I give you anything else but. So here we are and I'm in the mood for some Girl Talk and as usual...if you're uncomfortable or get offended with sex talk, go ahead and leave now, because this is about as light as it gets lol

I'm just gonna open with one basic question....Does size matter?

Now we get objectified all the damn time. Our tops want us to have big booties and they want it nice and soft and plentiful, the shit has to clap, and look stupid in them jeans. Ladies know too, their men want them with big titties, coca-cola bottle shapes and Nicki Minaj booties. Well, it's not talked about as much as what the guys do, but we objectify too! My homegirl doesn't even consider a dick big unless it's at least 10 inches and that's a starting point for her!!!

So let's get into it, because it's levels to the shit. There's growers and showers, pencils, stupid thick, Mandingo size and just plain stupid. Let's talk about the growers and showers. A grower is a guy that when soft appears to have a small penis but when he's hard he gets an inch or two and some width. (cough cough Shemar Moore) A shower...well...that's just it. What you see is what you get. Let's say you've been dating a guy and it's time to get down to the hot and heavy. You look at those big strong hands, ooh girl he wear a size 12.5!!! You're back at his place, he's kissing and rubbing you. You trying to take that belt OFF and unbutton his pants! Hormones are racing. You want that shit BAD! You finally get them pants down....and he's soft and it's about as long as your middle finger. Stop for minute, what do you do? Do you take a chance on it getting bigger when it's hard, or are you just completely turned off? Hmmmm.... Let's give him a shot, so you stroke him while he's kissing your neck. And you fling that head back because his lips on you feel so damn good and you just want to be dramatic. You slide down to suck on him to get him up to speed, and he's hard now...still about the size of your middle finger....so he's not a grower...he's a shower... Now keep in mind, he's sexy, has good potential, good head on his shoulders, but this dick is just...not...what's...up....Do you proceed because you've made it this far or do you just say fuck it, you know the sex will be whack anyway? This scenario happens all the time. Let me tell you, you could be walking out on the best thing to happen to you. He could also give amazing head and can work that ass like he's a 10. Just saying...it's a judgement call...he also may never please you sexually...gamble gamble gamble lol If I were single and in this situation, I'd probably give him a shot, teach him a few tricks and go from there. Any asshole can have a big dick, but a good booty eater with a good head on his shoulders is hard to find lol

A lot of bottoms swear up and down their man has to have a big dick. But hunny, every big dick ain't golden! A pencil (cough cough Chris Brown) is a long dick with no type of thickness. Hell you grab it hard enough you might break the shit! So let's say you've been seeing this guy for a bit. You've had sex a few times but nothing spectacular.  He's gotten comfortable...cocky even. Yeah he's kinda cute, stable living, but he thinks he just rocked your world. Eats good booty, gives pretty good head. But this 9 inch dick he's bragging on is about as thick as a stack of quarters....You've rode the dick, he's had you on your back with your legs to the moon, doggy style, standing up, in the kitchen, in the bed, whatever, you're just not feeling it. Do you continue to hope it'll get better, or shatter that ego and kick his "cocky" (pun intended) ass to the curb?.... This is a toss up for me, if he's cocky, I'd have to bring that ass back down to earth.  Unfortunately they're seldom sweet, usually these pencil dick muthafuckers are cocky as shit because it's long. So (if I were single) I would have to shatter that ego. Ladies y'all know too, you get a pencil dick and he doing overtime on that cooch, to compensate for thickness. The daddy long stroke only feels good if tearing down walls at the same time, HELLO!

On the flip side, you have those who are thick as hell! I call them stupid thick. That's that dick that has nice length and stupid thickness. That's that shit that every time he puts it in, it has you biting the pillow. That's that yes sir daddy dick right there lol. I remember a time, it was the first time me and this guy had sex, I'm all ready to go and he massage the hole a bit. Next thing I know, he starts sliding in....I was like....WAIT! wait...nope, sorry I can't do it. LMAO! OMG, that moment was like wow! That thickness was no joke boy! I'm too tight for that mess lol. But these are my favorites, give me thickness, it hits that spot. You know what they say, pain is pleasure...lol

There is a misconception that black men is the only Mandingo in this world. I've seen some (yes porn) white guys that can hang (pun intended) with these black dudes now! So don't get it twisted, white guys can be Mandingos too! I think we all know what the Mandingo is all about. He has that perfect length and perfect thickness. I have a friend that refuses these lol He says he's not a power bottom and doesn't need a big ass dick to enjoy sex. I agree. Just because you're packing the Mandingo doesn't always mean you know how to use it. It takes more than sliding in and out to put it down. And that's real talk!

Finally we have those rare dudes that is just STUPID BIG. I'm talking dick so damn big the shit make you shutter just looking at it! These dudes be so damn humble. lol They're the ones that don't talk about sex, or hint at their size. That's that creep up and get ya dick! lol I'm serious y'all. These be the dicks that you think like, how in the fuck is this shit natural. Stupid long and stupid thick. That shit ain't going in me, I'm sorry. I draw the line at some point lol. So you're dating this dude and you avoid going home with him. So after dinner and a movie, it's like, Oh I got a early day tomorrow, let's wrap it up early. lol. And when he finally get that ass alone, you're like FUCK, gotta take this shit. Laying there thinking about a damn song or some shit until you get used to it! LMAO!!  My home girl like shit like this though. Cooch so damn numb, she probably don't feel the shit no more lol. And then have the nerve to be like, "Naw baby don't run, take this dick". Muthafucker, you bend over and let me get a dildo and see how you like this stupid ass dick you trying to get me to take. lol

I enjoy sex like any other bottom and most ladies. But to answer my own question, no. Size doesn't matter. Many will disagree. You can have a smaller guy that can work the hell out of you and make you think you just ran a fucking marathon. Or have a big ass dick that can't work shit. I opt for skill. Especially when he's thick and skilled with that tongue! And that's keep it 100, Fuck that, that's Keeping it 100000000000!! lol

One of the Girls

WELCOME OCTOBER! It's 3:53AM, and I am tired as shit! I honestly don't remember much about this week, all I can tell you is that I'm behind on my homework but will have it done by Sunday! Don't ask how I blew the week away, because at this moment I don't remember...It was Monday morning, and now it's early Friday morning and my husband is badgering me to come to bed. lol But enough about my week, I was planning another route for this week's Blog all the way up until last night. Before I begin, this Blog has multiple meanings for me. It gives me a way to express myself on things that go on that are interesting to me, giving my opinion and insight on love and relationships to help other people, inspiring others as well as myself, and to reach out to people who may also feel that they don't have a voice. This is my voice and I want it to be heard loud and clear. So with that being said, I may offend some people but this is truly how I feel. (Sorry for the rambling)...

 Ok, so as most may know, I have taken a strong liking to country artist Luke Bryan. I've joined the fan club and subscribe to his app. On this app, many other fans get together and turn his live stream room into a chat room. We all talk about Luke and whatever it is that we want really. "Most" of us have become pretty close and chat off the app. Well one girl in particular started a closed Facebook group called Luke's app girls. So I sent in a request to join and was instantly accepted. Within the hour, I returned to the group to see what the conversations were like, and discovered I was no longer apart of the group. I went to the app and jokingly said, "I"m aggravated, because someone accepted me and then kicked me out" The other girls assured me it had to be some form of a mistake. I truly thought so too, hence saying my post was a joke. I then got a response from the owner of the group saying "Sorry Chris, nothing personal, but girls only". I took her words in carefully. And it wasn't until her response that I even reacted. She responded (simply, not even with negative intent) "Wasn't trying to be mean". From then, it became a back and forth thing, until I was like ok, it's cool. It hurt my feelings, but we're good. Let's keep it positive, no hard feelings. She and some of the other girls, who might I add wanted to follow me on other social sites and seem excited when I come chat, Mean girled up and took a stand with her. And that's when I realized I'm not dealing with grown adults, I'm dealing with Mean Girls, because even after I tried to squash it, they continued on and made jokes because they thought I wasn't there.

Now, some may ask, why did it hurt my feelings...because since the moment I came out as bi/curious/gay or what ever, I have ALWAYS been known as one of the girls. Not to be confused with saying, I want to BE a girl, but my girlfriends have just considered me (respectfully) as one of the girls. We chit chat about men, sex, or what ever. Stuff I can't relate to, I just don't relate to. But I've never been made to feel out of place because I am a guy until last night. It hurt my feelings because when I write my Blogs, (even my husband noticed) I not only write for my gay community, but I write for my girls as well! I never let them feel left out. When someone reads my Blog I want them to feel welcome and as if I could be talking directly to them and that they can relate, even though I'm a boy.

 It made it real for me that no matter how gay I am, or how down with the girls I am, or how cool I am, I'll never be one of the girls. And maybe that's my insecurities showing, but we all have them. It don't make me weak, it makes me human. Now don't get me wrong, she can have her girls only group, there is nothing wrong with that. There isn't. But there are so many woman out there wanting to be a part of gay culture (not to be gay, but apart of it). They want to use our slang, understand our terms, get insight into our lifestyle, but if we say gays only, we're wrong. You want to have your gay husbands and gay best friends but what do you really think about them? Now this isn't towards ALL women. I still love my ladies TO DEATH! It all comes down to treat people how you want to be treated! If you have a little homophob in you, don't make fake and phony because you think having a gay friend is cool. Be real with yourself. Because when a person like myself comes into someone's life, I come with geniality. I am myself and people love me because of my cool nature. You have no idea what purpose a person has for being in your life. That's why I try to treat everyone with respect, and accept them for who they are, and I expect it in return. As for the girl on that app, I don't have any hard feelings towards her, maybe she's homophobic, sexes, I don't know. What I can tell you is that she missed out on what could have been a good friend.

But don't get me twisted I will still rock with my ladies who rock with me, but for the ones out there calling us DIVOS, no girl, I'm a DIVA! A boss in my own right. Then there are the ones who want us around but not around YOUR  homegirls. It's like you know you love the gay boys but don't want anyone else to know, or you're scared of what anyone else will think or say. You don't want us around  your children because you fear that somehow after a brief interaction that your child would be gay, and LORD KNOWS you don't want that! You don't bring us around when your man is around because either you think your man is homophobic, or that we may try to get your man, or deep down you think we could (but that's another subject matter) Or simply you're just plain ol immature and insecure, either way this one's for you, and THAT'S Keeping it 100!