He's Just Not That Into You

Ladies and gentlemen, we have heard the phrase "He's just not that into you" a few hundred times. But what does it mean? How can you identify the characteristics. Sometimes we get so caught up in the "I really like/love him" that we lose sight of our intuition. Sometimes it takes sitting back and REALLY, I mean REALLY analyzing your situation. I'm sure your cycle goes something like this. He does something you're not sure about, but you know you feel some kind of way. The feeling escalates for the next few days because he doesn't seem to care about why you're feeling the way you're feeling, you're "naggin" or "trippin". You say you're done, and then he comes back around with "I'm sorry" and talking a good game, so you have a brief moment of happiness and then you're back at square one. You have to realize he's not who he is when he's talking that good game. He's just pumping your head up. He's who he is from the moment you met him, up until now. A few things to look out for would be...

*If he bringing up the ex a lot*
Ok, yes the ex talk is necessary for a relationship I believe. But you say what you, and leave it alone. If he constantly talking about the bitch, then that's a RED flag. Talk to him about it, give him a chance to redeem himself, if not...deuces!

*You talk a little or barely at all*
Now see, when I first started dating my husband, I wanted to talk to him every chance I got. I was so excited about my new boo, I wanted his voice to be the first I heard when I woke up and the last before I went to sleep. Ladies don't be deceived, men are like that too, they are just low key about the shit. If he never wanna talk on the phone, always busy, oh I'll call you back and never do, prefer texting, go days without talking...RED flag, no ma'am, he don't want you boo....deuces!

*No date night*
If he rarely takes you out in public or he never wants to spend time with you or do things with you...he's not interested. If he likes you, he's gonna wanna be around you. If that is SERIOUSLY lacking....RED flag, he's not into you...deuces!

*Doesn't ask about you*
If he doesn't ask about your life, or how your day was, your goals, plans, NOTHING! He shows no interest in ya'll's future or let alone yours, no that's a RED flag...How can you even tolerate a man that doesn't ask about you or where ya'll could go?....deuces!

There are countless other signs, If he doesn't bring you around his friends or family (depending on the length of the relationship) or even show interest in doing so, if it is more physical than emotional, secretive about his phone/text messages, OH! And if  you can't be on his facebook friend list, or you are and he can't tag you in posts, or doesn't claim you period...RED flag! Chuck the deuces on his ass!

Most people spend so much time chasing the wrong people that they could potentially miss the right one. Sometimes you have to evaluate your situation. Can this person bring the same things you can. I'm talking 50/50...no 70/30! Why waste time with dead weight, if you see trash on the side of the road, you don't pick it up, you leave that shit there.

I read an article that I want to share, when a man is serious about you, you won't have to wonder, you will know, I don't think ya'll heard me, let me say it again and break it down, when a MAN, not a grown ass boy, wants to be serious with you and grow with you, you will not have to wonder about his intentions. He will make it known he is for real. Grown man don't play games. He'll apologize for being late and provide explanation. Not that you need a play by play, but he's considerate and doesn't want you to think otherwise.He is attentive when you are speaking and follows up about the things you say, because he knows it is important to you, so it is important to him. He cares about your future and encourages you to make yourself better. He is affectionate! He holds your hand and not afraid to be boo-ed up with you, he has meaningful conversations with you, pays attention to the little things and of course, he's sensitive to your feelings and he RESPECTS you!

It's time to stop making excuses for these men. Life is to short to be chasing some man around that's laughing while your ass is running after him. Want better and DO better for yourself. Anybody can talk a bunch of bullshit. But a real man will SHOW YOU. There is nothing wrong with wanting love, but when that person isn't right, he's just not right. And you have to move on with your life and make way for something better. Nobody wants to be alone, I get that, because I don't. But once you find that man that will make you feel worth it, you're gonna wonder why you dealt with the worthless and that's keeping it 100!